People interested in S/M just are. It's part of what makes them tick. It's a continuum. Just like there are more people interested in sex than others, or sex with lots of people or whatever. And there are people who have no interest whatsoever in having any type of sexual relationship. It's not bad (as long as it's safe, sane and consensual) or good. It just is.

I suspect that unless you have sadistic or masochistic tendencies, it would be very difficult to try to wrap your head around any way that it would make sense to you.
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Casey Dawes
Wise Woman Shining
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