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Immaturity and "neediness" isn't connected to age. I have known both young men and older men to possess those qualities (and young and old who haven't).

I do not want to "take care of" anybody (not in that way, I think you all know what I mean with that statement). And I don't want anybody depending on me for their happiness. A partnership is not one sided, each person contributes. I suppose that's why I've remained single, life is great not having to deal with that (I was married for 18 years to a man who didn't know how to turn on the washing machine and who pouted when he didn't get his way). Geez.

I guess we all need to be careful no matter what our age. Lonely men and women are more likely to let themselves be taken advantage of (like the women mentioned in Laurel's post above, losing everything to their "boy toys."



Take your time to know some other male friends well. Has he dated or known a woman for awhile or recently?

As for guys wanting or not wanting children, well I think some guys are like some gals....some definitely know early on that they don't wish to have children. A good indicator is if the guy is clear in his own head for past few years, what the true daily responsibilities of parenthood are/has looked after/taught children (ie. younger siblings, students etc.). Some men just don't know...because they have NEVER looked after children/babysat at all or was the youngest in family.

If I may add, what the reaction of my family was...siblings were fine. Parents took awhile... but then in our extended family, I have a great-aunt who is 20 years younger than her (now dead) husband. She is wife #2 and they both had 7 children after lst one died. So great-aunt is almost same age as my...father....her husband is actually my father's uncle.
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