I posted my response much earlier. As I said my situation is completely the opposite, since he is 16 yrs. older.

Well, let's just think hard for once...if you had a SON who fell for a much older woman.

I know of 2 close friends who each married a guy who was at least 7 yrs. younger than each of them. wasn't as significant, but enough that the mother of the son was extra ....vigilant (but friendly) in her relationship with the bride/wife.

Both guys had excellent relationships with their respective mothers....so they weren't looking for a mother figure in their lives. Yes, they both share childcare, housedhold stuff, etc.

The 3rd sitaution I am aware of, the guy is in late 20's, she is in her mid-40's with 3 children. I know the father of the son. He is abit resigned about his son and feels his son is looking for mother figure in life. Parents had divorced over 20 yrs. ago.

The late 20's guy has had some problems with drugs, finding steady employment, etc.

Ok, the father is in his early 50's who wants his son to make proper sense of his life. No, he doesn't approve totally of what is going on. But his son is an adult.

I guess, my point is....is just know the guy for a long time before settling down. He WILL change...I mean get real..we didn't know ourselves in our late 20's, early -30's did we?