I didn't really set curfews, but neither of them stayed out all that late anyway. I didn't set a many rules, and again, my situation was different, but the rules I had were kept or else. I feel that if they don't want to abide by the rules of the house, then they darn well better be ready to be on their own. I also agree with their paying rent. They need to learn there are no free rides. When my daughter was in college and couldn't afford much, I only took a stipend from both of them. But, she did a lot around the house and he fixed things for me. Later, when he lived there on his own, I charged him enough rent to cover the utilities. He took care of the property for me, replaced broken water heaters, had the house painted. (He is a contractor)