It is harder and you do have to adjust some rules, but I believe you still have to have some. After all it is your house. They still need to respect your rules. I always went by the old "You're under my roof, you go by my rules." For instance, if they smoke and you don't want smoking in the house, they can't smoke in the house. If you can't lay down a 10 p.m curfew, then have something that states, no coming in late and making noise and upsetting those who have to go to work in the morning and no overnighters without letting you know so you aren't aup all night worrying. They should have to let you know ahead of time about meals and if they are going to be there or not. Simple things that boil down to respect. You'll be fine, Dots. You have a good relationship with your kids so I am sure you will all adjust fine.