Mitzkity, I'm impressed that you are so honest with us, and expressing something that many of us feel.

I'm a very enthused grandmother, but I'm as enthused to give our grandchild back to her parents, because I need my own life as well. I think a lot depends on the grandchild. At this point our grandchild brings us so much love and laughter that she enriches our lives. But if you ask me if I would be willing to be her taxi service and constant babysitter and so on, I would say no.

My MIL refused right from the start, and I never had a problem with it. I never knew what it was like otherwise. So my advice would be, don't start a service that you won't want to continue.

And another thing, adult children can be surprisingly understanding.