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Mitzkity, you don't sound politcally incorrect to me...you sound co-dependent. I should know, because I am, too.
I think you need to find a balance with the grandkids. You should be in their lives, physically, because good grandparents are so important to children. But don't let your kids take advantage of you. As everyone else has said, lay the ground rules and stick with them. Make sure the family knows that you love your kids and grandkids, but you need your space. And please, when your with the little ones, enjoy the time...don't spend it worrying about you husband being angry. He's a big boy and needs to deal with his own emotions.



People appreciate if they know some ground rules that are nicely told to them.

And I agree with Bluebird, that perhaps your husband simply lacks patience. Why sure, he doesn't want to have his own children and shouldn't feel obligated he has to feel differently otherwise.

But hopefully he will see the light one day...that you do wish to enjoy your grandchildren occasionally.

If I may offer, a completely different perspective. I don't have children, but he has 2 adult children..and is now a grandfather. I think it's shame he's 4,000 kms. away from his grandchild who is growing quickly. I know my partner loves his freedom as an empty nester but knows his grandson will not feel any closeness unless he is more physically present in the child's life. So whenever we do fly into town, he spends a few hrs. every 2nd day with grandson. By the way, I'm off doing my own thing and not with him and grandson...I have a large family to visit one by one, for each person, which includes nieces and nephews.

Grandparent need is not just limited to the maternal side.
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