Mitzkity, I certainly understand where you are coming from. My mom raised five kids and when it came time for grandchildren, she basically made it know that she was no babysitter and we understood that. She was her children's last resort sitter and that was cool with us. She loved her grandkids, but didn't dote on them which I think the kids appreciated as they got older.

I think we sometimes get a certain perception of the way things SHOULD be and we hang onto that even if it doesn't work for us. The sooner we can embrace who we are and the way we want to be, the better off everyone is. Make sense? We are the generation that will change all the SHOULDS! We've been doing it since we were kids.
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