Sorry for just jumping in here but...

Have you ever read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It's a wonderful book! DH and I both read it. No, we don't always speak in one another's "love language", but we are both educated now!

We are married 10 1/2 years...no children (not by choice). It's ALWAYS US! Yep, we get on one another nerves. I want his attention, but I know I irritate him. We both have been married twice before this (last and final) time, so we really have had some past issues to get over . And we still do.

May I suggest getting that book, and read some excerpts aloud to him. Then, leave it somewhere where he can read it himself.

DH left me a note in a section zooming in on one issue he NEEDED me to read....regarding LOOKING AT HIM when he speaks to me! Got the point!

My prayer is that you can both become the "one flesh" (once more) that was said in your vows.