Gosh, Vicki, I think the question should be is there anyone who doesn't have them??

I lost my mother and husband within 2 years of each other. I have a brother, but he has his own family and life now (We are 4 years apart, he is the younger.). My father is very alive and vibrant, has a few health issues but is overall able to do what he wants to do physically and financially. He had both knees replaced at the same time three years ago and you'd never know it. He is almost 79, but looks much younger (Many people think he is my husband when they meet us and I am 54! Humpf--now I am thinking that I don't know whether that is a complement to him or a slap at me, huh???!!). He is constantly on the go and is always helping out others. Anyway, my thoughts are running along the lines of, gee, I am here helping out with my very elderly (aged 90+) relatives (maternal side great aunts and uncles that are childless and have nobody else left) and my father is helping with them too. So, what happens when Dad goes? I can see myself in the same place as the elderly maternal ones are right now--having to depend on great nieces or nephews, etc. for assistance in living daily life. It scares the heck out of me, and then I feel SOOO guilty for even having those thoughts. It makes me sound so selfish, even to myself. It's a conundrum, that's for sure....