I love this topic. I immediately thought of Ephesians too. I remember studying this in a Bible study when I was younger. Some women had the attitude "no man's going to rule me". Well that really isn't what Paul is saying. Here's my interpretation:

First of all, the verse preceding what we are to do as wives states, "Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ."

Then it is followed by how we are to submit, etc.

After that Paul states "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, etc...

Paul uses more words instructing husbands about how to love their wives than he uses instructing us to love our hubbies.

It all goes back to outdoing one another with kindness. If that is the goal of each spouse then marriage is a precious relationship that needs sweet, tender, self-sacrificing care by both partners.

I would love to hear men discuss this passage. Wouldn't you?