Just popping in here in between funeral arrangements and family gatherings. "Sad and devastated", bereft, a huge, raw, aching hole to deal with...but also peace and serenity in there too, because I seem to be hearing him tell me so often over the past few days "but I really LIKE it where I am now!"

I'm sharing a couple of links here with you, where people have been leaving tributes and messages which are very heartwarming and consoling to the family. It's things like this, you women on this site - and that wonderful unexpected heart-lifting phone call from Dotsie and Georgia that sent my heart cartwheeling across my sadness - that make this bearable. I so look forward to coming back here "to stay" next week.

One person who's been fluttering through my mind throughout the past few days is Lionspaw (and Robert) - I think she'll understand the connection...

The links: Gary's obituary (and online guestbook) http://www.legacy.com/can-ottawa/Obituaries.asp?Page=Lifestory&PersonId=87000977

The Caringbridge Site that our friend, Louise (who I've not yet met but who has been an amazing source of inspiration and strength for me over the past few difficult weeks) set up for Gary: http://www.caringbridge.org/cb/viewGuestbook.do?method=executeInit
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When you don't like a thing, change it.
If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

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