Ladies, pain is inevitable in life. As we begin to recover, we see that much of the suffering that we experience is directly related to our illusion of control. The more we hold on to issues, beliefs, or experiences that we long since have grown beyond, the harder it is to find closure. Contrary to most religious belief, suffering is not noble. When we are attached to our suffering, we often miss those 'flowers that grow out of dark moments.' Once you let go all things are possible. God bess your journey.