To foundhervoice and starting over: you will one day feel whole again. It takes a while and there is no path for everyone to follow - each must find her own. I have been divorced for about 13 years now, but I can still remember the pain, shock, anger, vindictiveness I felt. Especially when my ex remarried as soon as the divorce was final. Today I am whole and have a wonderful relationship with a fantastic man who values and respects me, as I do him. The road has been long and there were days I had to pull myself out of bed, force myself to eat, etc. But you know that old saying, fake it till you make it, has some merit. It's a hard road, but I wouldn't change a thing because I learned how much strength I have been given and how many things I can do all by myself. So hang in there both of you (and anyone else going through a difficult time) because it does get better. Lots of big hugs to both of you.