You have a lot of years to heal, it's not a flesh wound, so to speak. I've heard you need a month for every year of marriage to heal, but I don't think there are concrete time frames. Everyone is different.

I'd be willing to bet he's hurting too, but like most men, he'd never show it. My husband told me he was waiting for me to call it off until he got the final papers, I'd have never guessed that.

Take your time and don't even think about if you'd take the plunge again. Focus on that new life you are starting instead. The best thing now would be a bubble bath, a nice glass of wine (or a box of Godiva chocolates) a good cry, then a good nights sleep.

Prayers going up for you!