Dear found your voice,I am so sorry for your trials. I can't imagine the stress. I am trying to avoid the stress of a divorce so I keep putting it off. Having him out of the house is relief enough right now.
I am a teacher-middle school. I can't tell you how many times one of my kids would start acting up, grades fall, get quiet, get louder, many behaviors that were reaction to parents splitting up or a prolonged period of unrest in the home. PLEASE tell your children's teachers what is going on at home so teachers know how to react to their behavior. At our weekly middle school teacher meeting-sectionals-we do discuss if we see a child in trouble. Knowing what is going on at home would definitely help us set up a plan of helping the child. I know people want to keep things private but in 23 years of teaching I have never experienced any teacher discussing the parents. It's about the child-how we can help.