Dearest Found your voice (can I call you something shorter, like FYV??). I am so sad to hear about your heartache. There seems so much for kids to cope with these days, they dont need to be caught up in relationship games. I have not been where you are, but my kids still have issues. So I just wanted to say be careful not to be hard on yourself, kids might have had problems anyway, in the most normal of families kids can get caught up with problems so be kind to yourself. thanks for sharing and good luck