Good Morning All!

Well its official I have a new name! The court thing went well, he did not show up so it was just me, 2 attorneys, the judge and a girl friend who came for support. I had to get on the stand and answer questions but it went well. actually it turned out that all were sympathetic to my situation and at one point they went off record to discuss the best way to word a section to ensure I would be covered as good as possible.

The settlement wasn't what I had hoped for a year and a half ago, but really what else could we do? He has no $$ he has spent it all on attorneys and legal stuff to stay out of jail, he can't pay alimony because he won't have a job. I did get 1/2 of his retirement.

They added a clause that if by some miracle he doesn't get prison time then he will have to pay 1/2 the bills and alimony and 1/2 retirement.

I got all our possessions so the auction is clear to go on Sat. Pray that the bids are high adn I make lots of $$!

The attorney has promised to help me clean up the mess that I am still dealing with financially. I may still have to file bankruptcy--but that will be down the road a bit as we see how the house sale shakes out.

I told them on the record that I had set aside some things for his mom and would take them to here once I was sure he was behind bars. I got a call (message) from him last night--all sweetie--saying he wanted to make arrangements to come and get those things and he wanted to go through his things and pull out yearbooks etc--still trying to get into the house, still trying to get a face to face, still trying to control.

He doesn't know everything is already gone to auction--I could kick myself though--all that time I spent pulling things he might want--I forgot yearbooks! Now he'll never remember that I pulled all those things for him--he'll just remember that I was callous and threw out his yearbooks! sigh....

But I have the courts backing that I could do whatever with his things so he should count his blessings I took the time at all!

Found out last night the gal that wasn't moved out of her house yet so i could move in over the weekend--the place she was moving to fell through--she won't be out until mid May! At first I was upset, but if the people do get to buy the house they won't close for at least 45 days so that means I can live rent free for at least another month--so Praise God! and the landlord feels so bad that the rental has been delayed that they are letting me store all my things in their basement no charge for as long as I need to. PTL!

Thanks for all the support and prayer ladies! I couldn't have done it without you! And once more for the record---PORN IS A BIG DEAL--it destroys entire families and YOUR HUSBAND COULD END UP IN PRISON!!! Mine did--it could happen to anybody!