SO,
If you find yourself getting upset try this: Hestitate a fraction of a sec before you answer and look at one of the attorneys and think, "hmm ... his tie is on crooked" or "hmm ... this chair is made of solid oak" or whatever.

Years ago, I found that if I withdrew my emotions from the situation that was upsetting me, even for a fraction of a second to focus on something insignificant, it gave me power. I could regroup instantly, and answer calmly. Sounds crazy, but it worked for me.

JJ

Great advice, both the item to squeeze and the mental withdrawl from the situation. I also use to make believe I was staring in a movie and was acting....
I'm ready for my closeup Mr.Demille....

Sexual addiction comes in many forms...all are destructive to a marital relationship or any partnership. Sexual addiction consumes the person the same way that alcohol and drugs do. Some sexual addicts are addicted to real life encounters, some only to online porn, some only to other visual forms of porn, and many to a combination of the above. And the object of the sexual obsessions can be opposite sex, same sex, children, even animals. Everyone is capable of having same sex fantasies even if they are heterosexual and not addicted...but they recognize them as fantasies and part of the arousal process. This is not the same as having a sexual PREFERENCE for children as pedophiles do or a sexual PREFERENCE for the same sex as gays and lesbians do. Most pedophiles are heterosexual, by the way. Your husband is not only a sexual addict but very confused as to his sexual identity and preferences. And, yes, marrying was a last ditch effort to cover up that confusion and appear "normal". Truly, it doesn't matter.

The addiction/preference/identity issue is HIS, not YOURS. And it is something you are chosing not to live with. But because every addict is in a life and death struggle to prove that the truth isn't so, he will be a difficult opponent in a court room. I hope you have a VERY GOOD attorney. Wishing you the best.