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#9591 - 07/03/05 03:38 AM www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Registered: 07/02/05
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Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
This is a story about courage, determination, wisdom, and the empowerment of a woman’s journey through her personal pain and struggle. It’s a story about the true meaning of “letting go”.

As I began the journey of writing my story, I felt as if I were writing this for someone else yet I was the only one who knew the information you are about to read or how the ending would be.

Many times people are faced with situations that make them feel imprisoned or entrapped. My story affirms that there is a way to overcome the feeling of helplessness no matter how long it takes.

After many years of living with a drug addict and alcoholic, I was able to find the courage needed to break away from it all.

In doing so, I decided that rather than feeling as if I have lived all those years in vain, I will instead; reach out to those individuals who have found themselves living in similar situations.

The bottom line is that we all have control over our own lives. We have the power to take ownership of our own destinies. Life is about choices, finding the right tools needed can change one's path.

I am a survivor. I lived through hell and have bounced back again. No matter what we are faced with, we do have the ability to set our own personal boundaries.

We are the keepers of our own lock and key. No one can have control over us unless we allow him or her to do so.

Those years are all behind me now. And sharing my life with you is my way of creating a positive out of a negative. My story confirms how much I have grown since living with an addict.

I hope by sharing my experience with you, you will see that stories such as mine do have positive outcomes. I am living proof that there IS such a thing as fairytale endings.

Please email me for my website address.

I hope you enjoy reading my book as much as I have enjoyed writing it.

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#9592 - 07/04/05 07:04 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dotsie Offline
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Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
Nice site. Great topic. I'm sure your book has touched many women.

I hope you will go in the Welcome forum and tell us more about you.

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#9593 - 07/05/05 06:58 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Thank you Dotsie! I feel that because of the experience that I lived through, I am hoping that just by sharing my story, it will help thousands of individuals who find themselves living in similar situations. Unfortunately alcoholism and drugs do not discriminate. It happens to people of all walks of life. I have always said that while writing my book, if I can help just ONE person, then it was worth all the endless hours that I spent in front of my computer. Thank you again for your encouraging words! I will certainly post int he welcome forum as well. Teresa Hamilton

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#9594 - 07/06/05 07:04 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dianne Offline
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Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
Another survivor/thriver. Welcome and thank you for being willing to share your experiences to help others.

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#9595 - 07/05/05 08:30 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
Dianne, another women who puts herself out there for the sake of other women.

Power, please visit Dianne's site.

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#9596 - 07/06/05 03:04 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
chatty lady Offline
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Registered: 02/24/04
Posts: 20267
Loc: Nevada
Lets give a "BRAVO" to Dianne, Lynn329 and The Power of Addicted Loves author Theresa... [Big Grin]
All women giving to others freely...

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#9597 - 07/06/05 04:51 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Posts: 173
Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Thank you ladies!! The first thing that people asked me when I finished writing my book was "Teresa, are you sure you want the entire world to know your story?"

My answer was simple. If my story can stop ONE woman or man from making the same mistakes that I made, then that to me is.......priceless!

If I could afford it, I would give every woman or man living in domestic violence shelters a free copy of my book just to help them see that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.

I am living proof!

Teresa Hamilton
www.thepowerofaddictedlove.com

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#9598 - 07/06/05 05:46 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
Thanks ladies. Teresa, the day may come when you're in a position to give copies of your book free. Maybe damaged ones? My publisher does this...gives damaged copies to shelters. They have a waiting list so you can see the need is very strong. I'm so thrilled that you have joined us and thank you so much for posting about you and your book on my site.

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#9599 - 07/06/05 06:53 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Registered: 07/02/05
Posts: 173
Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Thanks Dianne!

I love your site as well! Have a good Wednesday.....I am off to the office.

Teresa

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#9600 - 07/07/05 04:40 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
wordcharmer Offline
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Registered: 05/18/05
Posts: 69
Loc: Ohio
Welcome Teresa. Just looked at your site. Your story is a powerful example of what a true survivor is. Bless you for telling it. I know it will help others.

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#9601 - 07/07/05 05:21 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Registered: 07/02/05
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Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Hi Wordcharmer!

Thank you!

When I was writing my story (book), I had to place myself back into that abusive situation. So many times I covered his actions up with excuses. If it had happened today, I would have taken out a full page ad in the newspaper!

The lessons of life................


Teresa :-)

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#9602 - 07/07/05 05:41 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
I had to do the same thing while writing my book and the honesty that had to be written was a very spiritual experience for me. I knew I couldn't make excuses in my book because battered women exist on excuses, as I did. I plan on ordering your book this week.

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#9603 - 07/07/05 08:09 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Princess Lenora Offline
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
Yes, I did the same with my book. I had to relive the experience while I was writing in order to offer the full emotional content. However, given that 20 years had transpired since real time experience, I was able to be objective enough to thoroughly examine motives, memories, and emotions. That objectivity helps me to help others now without careening into the experience again and again. Love and Light, Lynn

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#9604 - 07/08/05 06:00 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Your right Diane! Battered women do exist on excuses. Aside from feeling judged by our peers, family and friends.....we are forced to put on our smiling face even though our heart is on fire with pain.

It's amazing the things I was able to "hide" from the outside world. I should have received an Oscar for the worlds best actress. Unless I had physical bruises on my body, noone would have ever known what went on behind closed doors.

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#9605 - 07/08/05 06:14 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
wordcharmer Offline
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Registered: 05/18/05
Posts: 69
Loc: Ohio
Teresa, one of my daughters was in an abusive relationship. Even though she had no bruises, I knew in my gut that she was being abused. She didn't admit it at first, but when the abuse escalated and he began abusing her son, she finally asked me for help. The sad thing was, that by the time she came to me, he had sexually abused her son. He was four at the time. He's almost 6 now, but he remembers vividly and is in therapy. She spent some time in the hospital for a suicide attempt when she found out what this animal had done to her son.

I hope that any woman who reads this knows that if a man is abusing you, he may eventually abuse your children too. Even if he doesn't sexually or physically abuse them, by staying in an abusive relationship, you are taking a chance with their lives and yours. And when they see the abuse, and feel the fear, they are emotionally scarred too.

[ July 07, 2005, 11:16 PM: Message edited by: wordcharmer ]

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#9606 - 07/08/05 07:09 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Princess Lenora Offline
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
Charmer, thanks for sharing this. So this would be your grandson that was abused? As you may know, considering that you are knowledgable about DV and SA, that he remembers may be better than burying the pain for a lifetime. He is able to participate in therapy. Yes, children who even witness abuse are victims as if they suffered the actual abuse themselves. Love and Light, Lynn

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#9607 - 07/08/05 04:15 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
wordcharmer Offline
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Registered: 05/18/05
Posts: 69
Loc: Ohio
Thanks Lynn, yes I do know that. He is my grandson and a very bright little boy, and seems to be doing OK. His mom has turned her life around too, and is getting married this Fall to a man who is very good to her and her two boys.

[ July 08, 2005, 09:16 AM: Message edited by: wordcharmer ]

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#9608 - 07/08/05 05:47 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Registered: 07/02/05
Posts: 173
Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Your absolutely right Wordcharmer!

My heart goes out to your daughter! I hope in time, her pain will heal and she will find peace again for not only herself, but for her son as well.

Many times victims of abuse do not want to discuss their situation. Most times it's because they are fearful that their spouse will find out and seek revenge. In my case, my ex husband was not only an abuser, he drank at least 20 bottles of beer each night, snorted cocaine and still acted like I was the one with the problem.

In addition, he found satisfaction with buying rounds of drinks for everyone at the bar using our mortgage money to finance his addictions.

I think he was happiest when I was barefoot and pregnant. He used to tell me that noone would ever love me with four children.

Boy did I prove him wrong!!! Not only did the most wonderful man come into my life a few years ago, I was blessed that has taken my daughters under his wing being the best father anyone could ever ask for!

Everyday seems like a fairytale and I thank God that I was strong enough to walk away from my abusive and dysfunctional situation.

Please have your daughter look at my website.....my story may inspire her.....and help her through her time of pain and struggle.

We ARE survivors!!

Teresa :-)

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#9609 - 07/09/05 07:00 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dianne Offline
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Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
wordcharmer, the statistics: If a man abuses his wife/girlfriend the child stands 1500 times the chance of also being abused. Horrible to think about.

I'm so glad your daughter and grandbaby are okay now. It's so tragic. I want to kill these men who do this.

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#9610 - 07/13/05 05:45 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
wordcharmer Offline
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Registered: 05/18/05
Posts: 69
Loc: Ohio
Thank you Teresa. I will share your site with her.
She is healing, and helping her son heal too. And she is happy now. Like you she found a man who treats her and her children great.

Believe me Dianne, it took all my strength and faith to not find him and murder him! I certainly can understand vigilante justice in cases like my daughter's and like the case of Shasta and her brother. I hope they put him away this time and throw away the key! He should never have been out in the first place...

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#9611 - 07/14/05 12:33 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Pattyann Offline
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Registered: 07/08/05
Posts: 245
Loc: Ocala Florida
Blessings to a strong,in control woman!!!

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#9612 - 07/15/05 07:52 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
DallasGal Offline
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Registered: 04/14/05
Posts: 218
Loc: Dallas, Texas
Teresa, what a powerful and engaging book and story. I look forward to seeing what else happens in your life as you work to help others.

Keep thriving!

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#9613 - 07/18/05 05:44 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
The Power of Addicted Lov Offline
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Registered: 07/02/05
Posts: 173
Loc: Phoenix, Arizona
Hi DallasGal!

Thank you for the compliment! I am really excited to spread my message in helping others. The feedback thus far has been incredible. I love all of the support I receive on this website!

Teresa :-)

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#9614 - 12/28/05 02:19 AM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
DorthyK Offline
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Registered: 12/27/05
Posts: 1
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Originally posted by The Power of Addicted Lov:
Battered women do exist on excuses.

I agree and have read many books on the subject of domestic violence. Notably absent from these survivor stories is a true sense of remourse over the true victims of these stories, the children. Battered women do have choices, the children however, do not. I know that in some situations, to leave is to risk death, but the perpetual and societal "victimization" of women in these situations, ignores the true power that women have and the fact that their own choices led to their victimization and more importantly, that of their children. I have read your book, the true survivors are your children.

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#9615 - 12/28/05 04:51 PM Re: www. thepowerofaddictedlove. com
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
DorothyK, welcome aboard. Thanks for jumping right in and posting on such a tough topic. You may be interested in knowing we have a forum for domestic violence. Did you see it?

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