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#86177 - 09/12/06 05:54 PM Re: Dropping like flies [Re: Bluebird]
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Starting Over, I don't have children so never had to send one away to college - but there are other people's children in my life who I've known since they were babies and who are now in university/college. The same sort of thing is happening with them, and the common denominator seems to be an overwhelming combination of homework and social activities that they're involved in - they simply have no time leftover for anything else. One young friend of ours almost dropped out after only a few weeks last year because she couldn't get into the rhythm of juggling classes, the mounds of homework/reading, a part-time job, social activities in the dorm AND trying to placate her Mom who called almost every day. She finally did work out some kind of balance but went through the entire year feeling like she was constantly falling behind in everything.

I think if it's your son's first year, some of that might be true for him too...a whole new world of juggling responsibilities and demands. He just might need time and space to figure out the juggling act.
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#86178 - 09/13/06 05:16 PM Re: Dropping like flies [Re: Eagle Heart]
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starting over, I just typed two different responses and deleted both because I don't think either were good advice.

I don't know what to say that might help. Perhaps the best thing to do is realize it's not likely that you will totally lose him. That's rare. Remember that relationships ebb and flow depending upon where both people are at the time.

I know there were definitely times in my life that my contact with Mom and Dad waned. And come to think of it, I was in my early 20s. It wasn't that I didn't want to talk to them. In retrospect, I guess I was just too busy and selfish at the time. Sad, but true.

Perhaps all us Moms who are launching children in this world need more patience. Patience and faith that all things work for good for those who love their God.

I am thinking of you starting over.
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#86179 - 09/14/06 02:49 PM Re: Dropping like flies
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Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it doesn't get any better when they marry either. Then they have their work, their friends, their homes, their wife (or husband) and their kids, etc. I could have moved out of state or passed away a couple of months ago and my son wouldn't know. Does he love me, sure he does but time gets away from them. Does it make me mad and sad, you betcha it does! And one of these days I will be gone and he'll be sorry. I think girls are better than boys about seeing and spending time with mom more often, but then I don't have a girl so I may be wrong about that..


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