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#80399 - 01/31/06 02:23 AM
Old habits die hard
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Registered: 11/23/05
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Loc: Midwest
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I left my ex six years ago. I've been in my house for 4 years and a few months.
Just now I was reheating a cup of tea and realized that I was hunched over, elbows tight against my ribs, tense.
It's taken me this long to realize that the microwave in my own house is positioned exactly like the one in my former house, kitty-corner, and I was standing the same way I always used to and felt the same as I always used to -- trapped and so very small.
Dang these trigger moments.
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#80400 - 01/31/06 05:34 AM
Re: Old habits die hard
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Registered: 10/08/04
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MossPatch, How would it feel if you took a chance and just moved everything around in your kitchen on day. I am on the move of moving things all the time . I don't know how many times I have moved the microwave around and then decided where I have it now next to the fridge on the counter suits well.
Make a new day of it. Just some thoughts on the matter.
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#80403 - 02/01/06 08:52 AM
Re: Old habits die hard
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Registered: 11/23/05
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Thank you, all. I may be a slow learner, but when the aha! moment arrives, I move fast. I cleared a space in the pantry last night and the microwave's out of the kitchen.
It is amazing how a small change makes such a bit difference! Came down the stairs this morning and realized I was now looking at the whole [albeit messy] kitchen in the morning sunshine, not just that blasted microwave.
thanks again.
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#80405 - 01/31/06 09:02 PM
Re: Old habits die hard
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Mosspatch , You got girl . One step today and who knows about what tomorrow will bring . I started getting rid of things that I don't use anymore and donate to the hospital sale and use that as a tax write off . I get rid of old books and old glassware , etc. Some days clean all day long . Just don't know what I am going to get into .
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#80407 - 02/02/06 06:50 AM
Re: Old habits die hard
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#80408 - 02/03/06 02:26 AM
Re: Old habits die hard
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
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It's frustratingly amazing isn't it, what things will trigger us? The microwave hasn't bothered me yet, but I did have to completely rearrange the bedroom, living room and closet. Every time the phone rings I tense up and I have to remind myself he doesn't have this number. Sometimes smells will overwhelm me with negative memories too. We can't really control smells but it's so frustrating that we seem to not be able to control the thoughts/emotions when the triggers occur. I hate that at 49 I can be reduced to a shaking mass in under 7 seconds...
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#80413 - 03/18/06 06:49 AM
Re: Old habits die hard
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Registered: 02/13/06
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Loc: Jupiter Florida
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Wow! I love this stuff!! thanks to all. I did not have the Father Knows Best childhood...I haven't seen nor visited the place I was born in decades. My neice and nephew live in the same town. A few years ago, my other sister, a BWS advocate...and I drove to the home we were born in. We wanted to knock on the door, apologize and ask the resident if they woulnd't mind if we looked around. (I personally, wanted to see "what would come up") We were both ready for this, and yet when I pulled up, and got out of the car, my knees shook, I went into an immediate sweat, and we both decided "not a good idea"...Will I try again? probably, but only if my sister is with me. Moving the micro is a terrific idea, and noticing your reaction, is outstanding, and I commend you!!!
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