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#69295 - 09/09/04 04:48 AM
Financial Passion
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There was something about the way the bills hit my single income this month that perked my interest in a 'suitor' that's been attempting to court me for a very long time. He's a college grad, with an ok career, kind and caring and extremely boring. I used the yeild sign for this particular post because I need to express his carnal discrepancies /inadequacies. Last year, after his courtship to me for years, we had sex. I was not inclined to move not one inch. I was disgusted! (could have been due to the fact that I 'loved' someone that I was no longer with and substituted in an effort to move on) I talked to him like never before but soon realized that my efforts to communicate were strained, not natural, not a single spark. I soon realized that I would only be making the two of us unhappy. He would be with me because he really wants to. I would be with him because my bills are too high, right now. Well ladies, be proud of me. I chose the struggle; Alone. I explained my position to him honestly, as I have with you. I told him that his conversation, his being, his sex, was not what I was anticipating spending the rest of my life with. He listened. Once I was done, all he said was, "I'm a grown man. I know what I want. Let me make my own decisions." Now, am I supposed to view his persistence as a sign or as a crazed man?
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#69297 - 09/09/04 11:17 PM
Re: Financial Passion
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Ya know, I hear stories directly from women that say that their husbands bore them, don't satisfy, ect. I understand that two incomes are much better for them. Understand the security. What I don't understand is how someone shares such intimate space with someone you truly don't love...someone that bores you. They aren't worried about bills though. Am I missing something? Thank you Dots for being so open-minded, especially respecting that we all have different maps in our lives that make us who we are. My backbone that you speak of is getting pretty weakened with the loads I carry and have for years. I didn't choose this man because of another larger reason. I fear God knows my heart and would not like for me to intentionally use him. Maybe I should ignore that if I ever want a husband? Maybe I can learn to love him? My bathroom window is alway sorta cracked for fresh air. Many days when it extremely dark out and I'm using the bathroom, I chuckle to myself that a monster is going to come out of that darkness, stick his hand in there and still me. Juat a fleeting thought to myself occassionally...Well, one day when my 'boring friend' was over, I went to use the bathroom. I looked outside into the dark and whispered, "Monster, if you're out there, this would be the perfect time to steal me cause this man is boring the *$*$ out of me." He never came so I went back to sit with Mr.Boring. This time I was laughing. He was just happy that I was happy. Isn't that 'cute'? Sheree
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#69299 - 09/10/04 04:07 AM
Re: Financial Passion
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LOL.Chatty u're too funny! You're also right. I can say though, this man really does work and hard. But, like you say, NO MAN in his right mind is going to settle for someone that does NOT love him. Well, he must be out of his mind because I never ever call him. When he wants to come over, I give him a hard time, ask him why, "I just wanna to see your lovely face...I really do care about you..." living in lalaland somehow. Well, I'll have my running shoes on cause the way you've put it, even if I did want to get with this man, I'd be scared. LOL. I'm looking into other ways to supplement my income though. I have a good feeling about them too. I applied for a Small Business Loan- the minority part--didn't qualify. Hmmm, go figure. So, I'm taking some webdesign classes, refreshers, and hopefully will be launching my site soon, of course with God's blessings. TY for the reminder that creeps still have their pickup lines too, not that I shouldve forgotten. But, how will I ever know? How will you ever know, for that matter? Sounds like you've been thru and still going thru the ringer on the male tip. Is there something stopping you from leaving him instead? I know a lady that died recently. She was 56, married her deadbeat husband when she was 17, had seven children for him (they didnt believe in birthcontrol). He only worked, if I recall what she said right, 3 years of the entire union. She finished school and became a school teacher to financially support herself, her seven children and him. That salary was not enough to support all of them. He didn't care though. Point? You only have one life. If you're not happy, make some changes. You really do seem like a charming person (kinda rough on me sometimes Sheree [ September 09, 2004, 09:10 PM: Message edited by: Sugaree ]
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