What do you do, or have you done to steal moments away with your spouse while children are still living at home?

Go out to dinner at his favorite restaurant not the kids. I was able to talk through a whole meal without being interrupted and so was he. We laughed and laughed at that one.
Take a ride together.
Work in the garden.
Help him with a project
Walk with him most days.
He helps me in many other ways too, loading the car on bazaar days is just one example.
When you work and play together I think you stay together.
Thanks,
Maggie

Boy it is hard with a five year old and living int he sticks without babysitters nearby.

We usually work on projects around the house together.

It doesn't usually happen but we enjoy watching movies, going out to eat, listening to live music or visiting with friends.

This time of year, we enjoy sitting on the screened porch and enjoying our environment or making a fire in the yard and simply staring and talking.

Lynn

Maybe a trip back to the places where you spent time together before the kids would be nice. Maybe a romantic evening on the beach or your favorite parking spot ( it it's still there).

Maybe a candle lit dinner. Maybe a new dress and a limo ride to a an expensive place. Maybe just a whole day in bed.

Just some ideas.
smile

I haven't posted in ages, so this may be long winded but the question about time with a spouse is so important. I learned the hard way how very important alone time is for a marriage. Some of you "old timer" boomers may recall that last year my husband had a breakdown that was eventually diagnosed as bipolar disorder and he was in a manic phase. The phase lasted for months with the end result that he left in february and by the time all was said and done, there were police, psychiatrists, disappearances and eventually I had to file for divorce in an attempt to protect our home and assets. Happily, a few days before our divorce hearing (our 15th wedding anniversary, coincidentally), he called me and asked if we could talk. I had not seen or heard from him from May until August. So we met and talked for hours, he moved back to baltimore, we began "dating" and finally in December on Christmas Eve, he moved home. The six months of the illness were the worst time of my life. My husband is my best friend and soul mate, even if that sounds cliche, it is true. I never gave up hope that somehow, we'd find each other again. During the time he was gone, I realized that besides the mental illness, there were problems with our relationship. We had been together for 16 years and had begun to take each other for granted. We were busy with kids and jobs and volunteer pursuits. We never made time for each other, we didn't talk or share feelings often enough. I told God and myself all during the estrangement that I would work on my own problems and my own faults and if I ever got the chance, I would never take my blessings for granted again.
My husband and I now make a point of connecting daily, spending just a few minutes each day taking each other's emotional pulse, lingering over a warm hug, holding hands or doing some little thing to show affection. We also have a mandatory weekly date night now. Both of us look forward to and cherish our dates. We laugh and hold hands, occassionally dance or play pool. We recharge our batteries, together. I know how easy it is when you're married w/ children to become overwhelmed w/ kid needs and household chores and job responsibilities, but I've decided to treat my marriage like a precious child. The best advice I can give to anyone who is married and wants to stay that way is to make time for each other and re-learn how to play!

Amen Kathryn...good for you and your husband. Your advice is sound and should be followed by anyone having similar problems or better still "before" problems arrise.