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#197834 - 01/14/10 06:57 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Sandpiper]
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Registered: 06/03/04
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Loc: Massachusetts, USA
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Sadly, this is so widespread today, that we need to be on the lookout to not turn our eyes away when we see it.
We can help by respecting each other and teaching our young ones right and wrong. DV is a learned behavior.
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#197842 - 01/14/10 07:33 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Songbird]
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Also, those who abuse unfortunately have leverage. For instance, should the victim accuse the abuser and not have evidence, then the victim can be sued! Can you imagine. Our society has not only become litigious, but safeguards the abuser while revictimizing the victim!
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#197893 - 01/15/10 01:17 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Sandpiper]
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Sandpiper I dont watch violence either.A good dectective story solving the incident is enough for me..In fact one episode of Midsommer Murders showed a woman who was pushed into a huge tumble drier and that was enough for me...so I live in a make believe land where I watch the dectective but not ever violence..
We had a peaceful growing up where music figured and family gatherings..and plenty exercise playing games and walking
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#198052 - 01/18/10 02:52 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Mountain Ash]
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Registered: 05/05/09
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Loc: Michigan
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The statistics are staggering: 1 in 3 women are being abused and every NINE seconds a woman is assaulted. These are GLOBAL statistics (from the United Nations Report).
I don't have statistics on incest or rape; they have been with us since the beginning of time, also......
I survived a childhood of abuse and poverty.....in order to make a difference. I have been working so hard for so long......It is one of my passions to the message out there.
As the moderator of an abused survivors' group, I read the same, sad stories every day.
I've written a 25 page paper entitled: Society's Hidden Epidemic: Verbal Abuse: Precursor to Physical Violence and a Form of Biochemical Assault....may try to get it published.
One thing for sure. I will never....quit speaking up....and out....my goal is national tv.
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#198077 - 01/18/10 06:09 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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Hi, Dotsie: I am in the process of getting quotes to get my poetry book (Sanctuary of the Soul) printed. Is that what you mean by "publications?"
I haven't submitted my paper on abuse yet, to the ACA.
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#198104 - 01/19/10 02:09 AM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Alice]
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Sandpiper, we did not talk about "it" and we kept our secrets for decades, and generations. It is good of you to listen to your friend and comfort her. The scars last forever. I have noticed an increase in conversations and information about domestic violence, child abuse etc since the internet and social networking sites. It's true that unless someone is convicted, you can't "name" him. The perpetrators of crime seem to have more rights than the victims.
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#198119 - 01/19/10 01:56 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Sandpiper]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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(((Sandpiper)): I just keep on, keepin' on....writing to the media. Hopefully, I will be on The Factor/Bill O'Reilly....as his producer wrote to me.
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#198153 - 01/19/10 06:20 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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Dotsie: You can be sure I will let you all know! If it doesn't happen, it won't be because I stopped trying.
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#198202 - 01/20/10 01:25 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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(((Chatty))): Of COURSE that is probably the reason you are feeling so depressed. Abuse wears you down and eats at you. Every time you feel stressed, your body releases cortisol....cortisol damages your immune system. I've never spoken with an abused woman who didn't have a myriad of physical problems...it is a wonder (LOL) that I am even alive after 36 years of abuse.
We are ALL responsible for our own behavior. He is a miserable person and takes it out on you.
He is (most likely) using emotional blackmail.....if you don't.....do whatever......I will...whatever. I know how guilt producing that is, but if someone is determined to do something, no one can stop them. Don't let him hold you hostage.
Your emotional and physical health are all you have.
Hugs, Alice
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#198310 - 01/22/10 05:54 AM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 11/19/08
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Loc: American living in Germany
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((( Chatty)))
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As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. Goethe
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#198356 - 01/22/10 09:32 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Edelweiss3]
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
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Chatty, this has been going on for quite some time, so of course it is wearing on you. You have an authentic self that is not what he is placing upon you. You are better off taking in stray animals than that stray ex. He is toxic to your spiritual self. How can you have personal growth when he is creating the environment of toxicity? You are so important. You are losing your time on earth to him. You, you you dear know this. I know you know. Yes, haul his sorry a** to the YMCA. Free your self, your inner self. xxoo Lynn
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#198725 - 01/29/10 02:59 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: Louisa]
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Las Vegas Rescue Mission - 46 beds for men: http://www.vegasrescue.org/Services/ShelterOr go to this link and scroll down for a list of shelters: http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/cgi-bin/id/city.cgi?city=Las%20Vegas&state=NV
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#199618 - 02/14/10 06:33 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: jabber]
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Registered: 06/27/05
Posts: 2561
Loc: Alabama
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Chatty...where are you and your ex now? Has he moved out yet?
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Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#200247 - 02/28/10 02:22 PM
Re: Is It Everywhere?
[Re: chatty lady]
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Does Las Vegas not have public transportation? Does unemployment actually pay enough for him to give you $700 mth for rent and who is paying your fees for saving his money? Can he not open his own banking account?
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#204913 - 06/21/10 05:26 PM
Re: A child thats a murderer.
[Re: jabber]
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Registered: 09/09/08
Posts: 779
Loc: American living in Germany
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I could never stick by an abuser, son or no son. It would turn my stomach.
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A friend is a gift you give yourself. -- Robert Louis Stevenson
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#204922 - 06/21/10 09:53 PM
Re: A child thats a murderer.
[Re: Edelweiss2]
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