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#193332 - 11/05/09 04:45 PM
What to say to someone dying.
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A loved one might have a fatal disease. She sounds fine now but will be undergoing more tests. Some family says it "does not look good".
What do you say to someone who may have an illness that is terminal and they are depressed about it...for obvious reasons.
Thank you, friends. I covet your loving and understanding advice.
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#193354 - 11/06/09 01:12 AM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
[Re: Di]
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Di...I am sorry to say that I haven't a clue what I'd say to someone in that situation. I guess maybe we'd both cry and then I'd ask that person what I could do for them. I am sorry I cannot be more help....I'll send prayers up for you and your friend...God bless.
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Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#193369 - 11/06/09 03:38 AM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
[Re: chatty lady]
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Yes, very helpful. This person, a relative, lives far from me so "being there" is not something I can do. I recall when Mom was so ill, I, as an 18 yr old teen, kept a distance. There was no way I knew how to handle it. A first death in a family..and it was Mom. So I'm kinda not really sure WHAT to do. Eight years ago I had a friend pass away (she was around 43)..left two young children. I sent her a few things and cards etc. It was hard for me to call her. I wonder if cards are enough. Gosh, this is so hard.
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#193756 - 11/11/09 09:20 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
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#193833 - 11/13/09 03:31 AM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
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Just being there, sitting with them as they rest, reading, walking the dog, helping with chores, watching tv together, listen, tell stories, read a book to their child or grandchild, wash the car, and continue being apart of their family/village.
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#193879 - 11/13/09 11:43 PM
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#195862 - 12/14/09 06:08 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
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Seeing into a situation can help. It all depends on what stage the ill person is living in. Sometimes the person wants to seriously avoid the topic altogether and they like things around them to proceed as if nothing untoward is happening in their life. Sometimes they say that but they really want people around them and they might accept help if they feel it is needed.
In my opinion, we boomers are in a good position to assess the needs of those who are termnally ill, since we are now approaching our own mortality too.
"I'm here for you."
"Here is my number in case you need me to run an errand or just to stop by."
"I love you."
When words seem useless, sometimes a simple hug (physical contact) means so much to one who feels already dead.
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#195865 - 12/14/09 06:22 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
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We are living through the final days of two people at this present time. what you say Josie...I echo..mostly the message.."We love you" it says it all..that without doubt the person/people who our friends love and will leave will be in our circle for ever. because they are no longer in this dimension we with add yet more love. Its painful waiting...but it reinforces that each day is important.
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#195866 - 12/14/09 06:27 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
[Re: Mountain Ash]
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Wonderful advise from everyone Di. Here is what I did with my dad when he was in his final stages. The doctors already told him he didn't have long. Here is what I said to him, "Dad, I know what the doctors said, but I am here to tell you it is still okay to hope." I learned that from the twilight brigade dot org. This is an organization founded by Dannion Brinkley, they help those in the hospice, in particular those who are in the military.
Please keep us posted!
Love and Hugs, Cathi
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#195941 - 12/15/09 05:17 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
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Well Anne, gift or rotten cook, I'm sure even if she didn't say it, she also thought of you as her angel at times and did appreciate you. Some people just can't allow themselves the pleasure of a kind word to someone else and that is so very sad. You know you did right by her and thats all that matters... I agree. Anne was extremely self-sacrificing. No one could have done more for their mother, and I'm sure she appreciated Anne's every comfort measure. I know I would have.
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#197772 - 01/14/10 01:21 PM
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#199226 - 02/06/10 04:56 PM
Re: What to say to someone dying.
[Re: Di]
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Only say good luck, and encourage her live with all your love, passion, do things that she doesn't do. BabiesRUs promotional code
Edited by jenifer (03/14/10 03:08 AM)
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