Hi Anne..Anno has a blogg..the address is on her posts here..if you want to check it out? She writes about what´s happening with her and Dennis, too.

MountainAsh..What a lovely story you have published here!!!! About the couple who have been married for so long!!!

Yes, I do believe that you have to be able "take alot" and be ready to love the good with the bad..but there are limits for everyone. And I am sure that these limits are different for everyone..and sometimes I think that maybe I could have understood more..taken more. But then the other side of me, tells me that I tried for 10 to 15 yrs of my marriage..tried and tried..but it just didn´t work. I still love him in so many ways..so sometimes it´s difficult for me to accept..but it is like that. I don´t think we could live together..eventho we love eachother in some ways..many ways.

I know that you are NOT judging me or anything..but I am thinking of these things lately..I guess that I always do.. this time of year...we separated 9 yrs ago in the summer.

I know that it takes 2 to make a marriage..and my hubby..well, he doesn´t didn´t SEE..and I didn´t either...shame..really a shame.

I am not regretting my "new life" either..it´s fine..really fine.. just thinking..you know me, MoutainAsh!!!!

HUGS!

Humlan...I would no more judge than be able to jump over the moon!!!

I felt that whilst some have had bad fortune and I symphathise and feel glad they are writing their testimony .This will help others.
I wanted to ackowledge a good man and our years together'

A good man is one to cherish! My folks were married over 60 years
before they went to be with The Lord. WB and I will be married
28 years soon. And my ex? Well, I think about him some; but,
can't stand the sight of the guy. His only value to me is that
he's my son's daddy. Other than that, that union was a huge mistake. Oops, I'm not 40 yet, either!

K keep praying for a good man. Unfortunately, a few years ago, I found my soul-mate. He is not available.

Fine? How is a marriage supposed to be? I used to think that "fine, thank you" was enough for me, but now I think enough is not so much. Alice, how is it that you saw your X on the anniversary? Did you 2 arrange it or was it coincidence? Alice, I have another question: did the soul mate of several years ago know he was a soul mate? And, I wonder, what if someone is a soul mate for a while, and then not so much? Is shared history enough to keep a marriage? I don't know much about marriage and I've been in this one for nearly 21 years.

((Princess)): No, it was a coincidence in seeing the ex. Yes, the soul mate knows he is my soul mate; after 5 years I still see him (in a professional capacity).

can't answer your questions because you are the only one (the therapist in me, LOL) who can answer those for yourself.

I am a passionate woman and I know I will never settle for less than what I want.

It sounds as if you are not fulfilled; can you talk to your husband about how you feel?

Hugs, Alice

I believe when a person "means it at the time " whether love or friendship then that is the core of the relationship.

In my case I meant it at the time and mean it still. "It" being the wish to be together share and cherish..
If the time comes for a relationship to shift or move on then still respect the good that came from it...

How we develop as an adult (my self at 21 and how I am now indeed) and how my husband also matured seems to be compatable.amazing since much of my adult learning changed me..he is patient and has a sense of humour..also very tender hearted for those in need..

some times people grow apart and then to stay together must be soul destroying..

Alice is it painful having a soul mate who is unavailable?

I think it is really cool to totally respect and admire the
person you're married to! It's neat to be content and happy
day-in-and-day-out! Isn't it Dotsie????

Know something Jabber...???
I dont understand your last post..is it in regards to my post?