I have a dear friend who lost her daddy a week or so ago. She is heartbroken, of course, and feels that they never got the chance to take care of certain issues. She is now very dissatisfied with her job and wants to quit. Now grant it, she's in her late 60s, and deserves to retire, but I'm not quit sure she's in a position to do so. Regardless, I feel that she's having that knee-jerk reaction to grief.

I've tried to gently let her know that someone who's grief is heavy needs to give themselves time to heal, to mourn the loss, and to just be. I suggested she put any major changes on the back burner and give herself room to adjust to the loss.

Do you, in your great wisdom, believe this was sound advice? Or should I have kept my "wisdom" (insert rolling eyes) to myself?

I love her dearly and don't want to see her jump the gun because of her state of mind.

Your thoughts?

I've always been told not to make any major decisions after a
huge loss: Just give yourself time to grieve. When you are that
heartbroken, you can't think clearly. Knee-jerk rebounds are
unwise, so I've been told. And my adoptive folks were wise people. Prayers and blessings! Hope you're friend comes to terms
with her loss. That is one of the most difficult situations
a human faces; hope she refocuses on Heaven and reuniting with her daddy and others!

Your advice was dead on JJ and she needs to take time and really think before making any major decisions just now. Thats why so many con-men read the obits looking for widows ans widowers to prey on when they are newly grieving.

The friend I was referring to above is now sitting at the hospital with her mother who is terminally ill. Please pray that somehow my friend can cope. I thank each of you in advance!