ChattyLady -- sounds like you are doing what you need to do to protect yourself until you know this guy better. He should appreciate this in you. I think it takes a number of months (or years)to really get to know someone, and I think the best thing you can do is to see him in a variety of situations -- the day-in and day-out stuff -- not necessarily "dating". How is he with your friends, his friends, etc.

Hi Chatty, I'm glad the night went well for you! I've been married 20 years, have had New Year's Eve with this hubby 24 years, and the only kisses I remember is from our doggies. He is a restaurant manager, and always works on New Year's Eve. However, he has a job! It is a good thing to be cautious and take your time. Wow, I hope you have a lot of fun.

Yes ladies I fully intend to take it slow. His name is GLEN. He seems to have made many friends at the resort we live in for having been here less than a year, most are my friends as well.

At least you hubby is out working new years eve P.L. and not out boozing etc. Bless his heart!

I have been very fortunate in the past with my men doing it my way, and loving it. The only one that didn't was #3, he's been an ass right from the start. I am positive that if I hadn't been near a nervous breakdown due to exhaustion from my poor sisters MS/Dementia and my caring for her for five years alone, 24/7 before she died, plus working a fulltime job from home. I would not have been vulnerable to his lies. It's like I was in a trance or something. I have been paying for that ever since.

Someone said, "If you think education will cost you, try ignorance." Boy is that ever true!

NO need of that Anne, dating once in awhile is as far as I am willing to go. I still see my detective buddy too. We understand one another and just want to have companionship and fun when we are out and about together. He said he'd check Glen out for me if I want him to. I said nope, but I know him, he'll do it anyway and tewll me the results if there are any. I am too lazy to have to work on a relationship, blah, poohey!!!

That's so true, Chatty, that the jerks prey on those who appear to be vulnerable. Also true about my husband catering to the drunk and disorderly rather than being with them.

I just got to this and I'm so happy to learn that you had a great date, Chatty. I hope you see him again and he remains "as is."

I can't do it again. It's been 5 years and I don't even want to. I liked having my guy friends at work, most of them are great. Now that the job is over I miss those hugs.

Anne, maybe you should stick to hanging out with the girls and forget about the guys for a bit. Sometimes when we least expect it, something changes. I so hope that's the case for you! Keep hanging in there girlfriend.

And heres a recap on Glenn the man I almost got hooked up with...
OMG! Never a dull moment around here...Everything that happened in the past week around me is going into my book.

He is not married to the woman he was with, Cora not anymore. They have been divorced now for some 15 years. She got cancer of the pancreas and lost her home in New York where they were from and asked him if she could come here as her treatment would be in Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Arizona. He said okay and she has been here for about 6 months now.

What happened was, he called me, I hung up! Called again, same! So he came to my house with her and they sat down and explained. She was very friendly. He said he lied because no woman would believe a story like that. I about laughed myself silly saying, boy do I have a story for you and proceeded to tell him about my ex, who is now living with me. We all had a good laugh and he apologized and she said to me privately that he is really a nice guy. She said, he worked too much and she was bored. She had an affair and left him flat for someone else who she then married. and the new guy left her flat six years later after she became ill. I have to say, I like her.

So ladies I was wrong about Glenn. He is okay just a bad liar, with lots on his plate. He wants us to be an item, or at least date and I left it at maybe. So who knows?

Oh good lord Chatty...you are assembling all this for a book release, right? The Adventures of Chatty...it would be a hoot!

Oh yeah, ALL of my adventures will be published in my book, the positive ones and the negatives ones, so watch out...LOL!!!