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#122032 - 07/01/07 09:15 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet [Re: Edelweiss]
chatty lady Offline
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Registered: 02/24/04
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Loc: Nevada
Medtype1,
This is the same story we have heard so often here and my own sister suffered the same kind of insulting, degrading behavior from her ex, before he was her ex. I know from experience its sometimes very hard for many different reasons BUT kick that slime ball to the curb as soon as you can, and don't waste another minute on him. Find someone thats worthy of you.
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#122033 - 07/02/07 10:34 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet [Re: chatty lady]
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
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Also, just pray he isn't involved with child porn. Someone can show up at the door, confiscate the computer and him. It happened to another woman who frequented our site.
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#122034 - 07/03/07 02:07 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet
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Registered: 01/10/07
Posts: 431
Loc: Oklahoma, USA
Medtype1,
I feel your pain. They don't always see it as cheating because it is with a picture. There are websites (at least there used to be) for this addiction. It is no different than alcohol or drug abuse. He needs help. They are not necessarily involved with children, just pictures of naked women.

He can change and get help, but he has to want to change.

Laurel

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#122035 - 07/03/07 04:33 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet [Re: Laurel]
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Registered: 11/18/05
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Loc: Aptos, California
"Out" him to Dr. Phil! LOL!
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#122036 - 07/03/07 09:46 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet [Re: Casey]
starting over Offline
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
medtype1 Dotsie is refering to me. It's true, hubby of 24 yrs found the computer to be a better partner than me. When the police raided the house they found the "largest collection of child porn ever discovered". didn't think to ask if that was in the county, state, or US (the feds were involved) Later he admitted to being gay too (hence lack of interest in me) I advise doing a LOT more checking, let him go and don't look back!

I wish I'd spoke up, rocked the boat, had the guts to leave on my own rather than hoping things would change and having to deal with my whole world collapsing. If the marriage isn't working end it.
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#122037 - 07/04/07 12:01 PM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet [Re: starting over]
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ah, glad to see you saw this post. Thanks for stopping by.

By the way, I need another set of the hand stuff from Mary Kay. Can you hook me up and send me a bill? Thanks.

Ladies, starting over is a very conscientious Mary Kay rep if you need one. It's so much fun getting little packages in the mail with good stuff in them!
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#122038 - 07/06/07 04:10 AM Re: Addicted to the PORN on Internet
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Registered: 11/05/05
Posts: 14
Loc: Illinois
Ladies, I thank you all for responding to my post. I have gone through so many emotions the past several years regarding this man. After doing some spying of my own with a handy little portable video surveillance camera, I do know that he is not looking at anything as sick and perverted as children or beastiality. While I am ashamed to admit that I stooped such a low act such as monitoring the t.v., (I just had to ease my mind so I planted this device in a flower arrangement next to his favorite leather chair, aimed it at the television, then hooked the remote receiver to a t.v. in the basement so I could see what channel he was watching) Desperate? Perhaps, but I had to know what the Hell he was viewing, what could possibly be more satisfying that the REAL thing? Well, it was simply just basic porn. I got so angry I graciously added a half dozen Adult Channels to the monthly cable bill (which HE was paying for with automatic bill pay on his credit card). He did not realize he even had these channels, nor was he aware he was paying an additional $60 per month until 6 months or so later, when he actually looked at his cable bill. HA! He is a tightass too, so I know this really pissed him off. But, the funny thing is he could not ASK ME about the charges, as he never would admit to watching porn. HEHEHEHE.

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#122039 - 07/08/07 01:43 PM Well, if I am...Re: Addicted to the Internet [Re: Dancing Dolphin]
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Registered: 02/17/05
Posts: 10032
Loc: New York State
I may be addicted. But it's a good addiction. I spend less than an hour on the Net because I am writing a book and don't have time to do otherwise. Boomer Women Speak and one other site are all I visit on a regular basis. This site is my very favorite! Some of you folks are a hoot!!!
Ciao for now,
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#122040 - 07/23/07 08:58 PM Well, if I am...Re: Addicted to the Internet [Re: jabber]
katebcca Offline
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Registered: 07/09/05
Posts: 631
Loc: Victoria BC Canada
re: addicted to porn
What do I advise my mother to do? Both her and my Dad are in their 80's and have not had sex since their 40's. What is a man to do if he doesn't have intimacy, is in a wheel chair and looks at porn out of curiosity, or because he can because of the Internet?

You would think at 80 there would be no interest but they are only 80 in mind, not body. I have advised my Mom to just ignore it as they are not intimate anyway. She has tried to catch him, sneaks up on him, checks what channel he was watching when he leaves the room.

My Mom is disgusted that my Dad is looking at this stuff. I don't really want to know about it either. Should I talk to him about it? He knows I know because my Mom has mentioned it in front of him. When she catches him she calls him a dirty old man and then won't talk to him for days.

I understand her being upset but he is not going to stop it so her nagging and name calling are getting her no where except stressed out. At this point they are not going to get divorced.
Any ideas?
Kate

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#122041 - 07/24/07 10:49 AM Well, if I am...Re: Addicted to the Internet [Re: katebcca]
chatty lady Offline
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Registered: 02/24/04
Posts: 20267
Loc: Nevada
At their stage of life if all hes doing is looking, leave him alone...I had several old men (past 75) clients doing the phone sex thing and they were spending a lot of money not only calling me, but other girls on the service as well.
Video porn to the best of my limited knowledge is free. Just my two cents.
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