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#116459 - 04/26/07 06:34 PM Its Officially Over...
NewLeaf Offline
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Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 1066
Loc: Deland, Florida
Last night my "husband" practically begged me to spend the night at "his" house which he shares with a young couple. I didn't want to but thought I would just to appease him.

I got there and he started in right away criticizing my daughter and my grandchildren in front of this couple. He said the girl could watch Dublin and Aaliyah for me but their mother would have to call the girl and officially ask her herself, not through me.

I was text messaging Katie to let her know what she needed to do when my "husband" came in and demanded to know what I was doing. I said I was letting Katie know she needed to call the girl herself and ask. He was drunk and agitated and kept harassing me to see if Katie had called yet.

I kept trying and finally I said, "She doesn't understand what I'm trying to tell her to do." My text msging is a challenge at best.

He flew into a rage and started screaming at me to get the F out of his house, right now, repeating it and repeating it and in front of the young couple. I had been playing a computer game and tried to close it out. He screamed at me to leave his computer the F alone and get the F out of his house and go take care of my D...ed grandchildren.

I got my things with him in hot pursuit of me and went to my car, never to return again. Never. He's humiliated me, hurt me, degraded me and hasn't been there for me during my; hardest most trying times of life.

Who needs that??!!

I took my rings off and I'm done.
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#116460 - 04/26/07 08:03 PM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: NewLeaf]
Vicki M. Taylor Offline
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Registered: 01/06/03
Posts: 2196
Loc: Tampa, FL
I'm so sorry you went through such a degrading, horrifying episode with your husband. Has he ever had those kind of reactions while you were living in the same house?

My first reaction is what an a$$!! Protect yourself and your finances first.

I'm so sorry. I've read your message over and over and I can't find anything good to talk about. I hope you're doing well and haven't let him get inside your head. Stay positive. Be independent. Self assured. Stay strong.
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#116461 - 04/26/07 11:47 PM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
NewLeaf Offline
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Registered: 12/26/05
Posts: 1066
Loc: Deland, Florida
He's trying to say he is dieing now. He just sent me a message telling me he is passing blood. What should I do????
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#116462 - 04/27/07 01:05 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: NewLeaf]
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Newleaf, stop the drama now. He wants you to react, do NOT CONTACT HIM. He wants to control and antagonize you to gain contol of you and the situation. Separate households exist, continue that existance, move on and once your present legal battle with the grandkids concludes or nears conclusion, get a divorce, or file now. It's time to put the trash out. Please know that I have only your best interests at heart as well as my prayers.

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#116463 - 04/27/07 01:07 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: ]
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Registered: 03/06/06
Posts: 2529
Loc: Southern California
NewLeaf, he's a big boy. If he's passing blood then he can haul his own butt to the doctor. You are not responsible for him.

Kathy

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#116464 - 04/27/07 02:20 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: Dancing Dolphin]
yonuh Offline
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Registered: 06/14/06
Posts: 2447
Loc: Arizona
Sounds to me like an attempt to manipulate. I've been there, done that, and it will just drag you right back in. You are not responsible for him. Don't get pulled back in to his manipulations!!
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#116465 - 04/27/07 03:11 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: yonuh]
Laurel Offline


Registered: 01/10/07
Posts: 431
Loc: Oklahoma, USA
He's trying to get sympathy, don't give him any. I'm with Kathy he's a big boy. If he's that bad off let his friends take him.

Also, ask yourself if he'd help you if you were in the same situation?

Laurel

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#116466 - 04/27/07 04:34 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: Laurel]
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Registered: 07/07/03
Posts: 4894
Loc: Orange County, California
Newleaf, I agree with the above comments. He's jerking your string for his own enjoyment. I doubt he's sick at all.

But just to be on the safe safe, I'd buy the most treacly barfy cutesy get well card you can find, and send it with something -- can you locate a rabbit foot keychain? super-glue a four-leaf clover (real or construction paper) to the card? -- anything that says you really don't give a (%^!@#&)(
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#116467 - 04/27/07 06:59 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: meredithbead]
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Registered: 02/19/07
Posts: 248
Loc: Australia/ U.S. websites
Nobody deserves that Newleaf. Be strong. Try not to play his games. He sounds very manipulative... passing blood, how dramatic. Wouldn't you think the people he lives with would have him at the hospital if that were the case? He makes me yawn.
You have my support and encouragement, be good to yourself. You probably feel like things are a little crazy right now, but could I suggest that you just take one day at a time, and know that you are doing the right thing for your own well being and safety. ((((Big hugs))))
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#116468 - 04/27/07 07:30 AM Re: Its Officially Over... [Re: SharonE]
Edelweiss Offline
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Registered: 06/05/06
Posts: 4136
Loc: American living in Europe
The nerve of him to ask for your help after he talked to you that way!
I agree with Sharon, be strong. Sorry, I wouldn't waste another thought on him.

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