j, several people on this board have been through the rollercoaster of death and dying of cancer. this is a good place to come for solace. may god bless you and keep you and your family. if you have questions, ask them. i will be very frank and honest if that is what you are looking for. if not. i will "beat around the bush" if you like. i watched my mother die of cancer and everything about her last six months remains very fresh in my mind. the bad times and the many, many, good times.