Dear Starting Over,

Congratulations! I was so happy to log in today and read that your new life is starting and that you will soon be able to put the past behind you. I apologize for not being in touch, but I am in the throes of the worst (at least I hope it is) part of my own divorce proceedings and have not had the wherewithall to log on to this wonderful website and participate.

I agree with all the fine gals here who think that it is not worth your time or breath to try to warn your ex's fiancee about what kind of man she is marrying. Your heart is in the right place and I applaud you for remaining such a kind, feeling person in spite of all the ugliness, but clearly this woman either has her own agenda or else she is such a lost lonely soul that she is willing to marry a man who is going into prison on a pornography charge no less. Oh well,it is not your problem now. You cannot save everyone. Please concentrate on moving forward, and try to remember - when you have those sad moments - that this too shall pass; close your eyes and try to envision yourself 10 years from now, in a much happier and joyful place.

Blessings to you and your son. You will remain in my prayers.

Namaste,
Foundhervoice-atlast

Thanks everyone! You have no idea how much it has meant to have the support of so many caring women--and I've never met one of you! God is so good to bring us together in a place we can share and support each other.

I felt much the same as you, I won't try to contact this woman. I have however prayed that God would reveal through on of his bizarre temper tantrums just what she is dealing with and then she will have to decide.

I did however contact the sheriff who began the investigation on my husband and gave him a heads up that he was marrying and the question had been raised about possibly fleeing the country. I told him that I was telling him and he could decide if it was a credible threat. He called the federal authorities and informed them. so my responsibility is done.

I paid off my son's car loan today (my sister is going to be his banker as a gift to help him through college--what a great aunt he has!PTL!) I called today to get the payoff on the property taxes and they are 200 less than I had estimated PTL! I called the bank to get the payoff on my loan against CD and the interest owed is less than I had calculated as well! God is working out the details and making my mountains smooth!

He has been faithful to carry me through all this mess. I still am delaing with the house/sale/foreclosure but trust that God will also work this out for me as well.

Thanks again everyone! Hugs and kisses for everyone!

Starting Over,
Flipper's mother marrying in her eighties and you getting the economic breaks just fills my heart up with happiness today.

Thank you so much for posting. You are being blessed for being such an honorable and loving woman. And you are blessing all of us by sharing your story.

God is surely with you now and He will care for you. You have nothing to fear. He owns it all.

This post makes me smile.

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Starting Over,

Congratulations and thanks for reminding me that this too shall past. My pastor spoke on the rainbow after the storm so his message and your posting have definitely renewed my spirits!

We had our initial court session last week and it went well for me and bad for 2bx. Scripture says 'You reap what you sow' and it's harvest time! I received custody and child support. That was the major battle so now all thats left is a little scrimmage and even if I lose that it won't have a devastating impact (difficult but not insurmountable). Unfortunately as the 2bx's facade continues to crumble it means that he gets more desperate and retaliates at home. Similar to FoundHerVoice, the 2bx is manipulating the kids for his own purpose with no thoughts to how it effects their well being. My time is spent doing damage control.

This week has been tough but everyday I'm closer to the end of this storm.

It's good to know that we can prevail while still taking the high road.

Thanks ladies...

You will not only prevail new attitude but come out so far above whats been the trials and trubulations of your existance that it will be hard to even remember them. The two if you have come such a long way already with your heads held high and the best is yet to come...

The strength of you women amazes me. I know it's difficult but you are inspiring. I wish you only the best.

When we all get this behind us we should combine all our stories into a book, focusing on building courage in other women. What do you all think?

wonderful idea -- the world needs more stories of courage!

Um, well...I already wrote mine. I could write about life after the first book!

Really good idea that could help many suffering some of the same situations. Dianne your inclusion into this book would make a great before and after chapter as so many others now ascending from the pits of a bad relationship.