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#10058 - 04/05/06 01:43 AM divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
starting over Offline
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
Hi all, hope I'm not posting over anyone. Just wanted a last minute call for prayer. Got a call Friday afternoon (as I was loading a truck to take his things to a storage unit--that he has decided not to fight me, I can have whatever I want, he doesn't want anything, he isn't coming to the divorce hearing--all because he has (finally) realized he is going to prison!

So tomorrow is the BIG day I legally take back my life. Tomorrow I reclaim my maiden name. Tomorrow I walk into my future. Tomorrow....oh I guess you get the idea!

Anyway, if you could all pray one more time I would appreciate it. I am not going in asking for everything, just half of retirement and for half of bills incured to date--I am hopeful the judge will see that I am not a 'gold digger' and grant my request.

Love to you all for standing by me during this!!

PS I moved over the weekend--30 people showed up to help me move! PTL! We were done in 4 hours! And since he had said he didn't want anything, we stopped the idea of moving his stuff to storage and I called an auctioneer to haul his stuff away. They have delayed the foreclosure sale for 7 days while they review the paperwork! When God starts to move He can mow down mountains!

I had to move fast becasue of the foreclosure sale so my things have been put in the basement of a house that is being rehabbed--right next door to the one I am going to rent! Once the tenant moves out I just have to walk my things across the driveway to put them away in my new home. In the meantime because of the extension I am 'camping out' in my current house on a air mattress and a folding chair--me and my dog--just waiting for God's timing!

Before anyone thinks I was cold and calloused to have his things hauled off, I went through all the boxes with 2 friends and we retrieved his awards and family things, the little bible he received when he accepted Christ as a youngster, etc. Once he is sentenced and jailed I will load my car and take them to his parents. Don't know how they will react to seeing me, but it has to be done.

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#10059 - 04/05/06 03:34 AM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
chickadee Offline
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Registered: 09/26/04
Posts: 3910
Loc: Alabama
Starting over, you have my prayers for a beautiful tomorrow. I think you did a great thing by retrieving some of his treasures. His Momma will be proud of you, even if she doesn't say so.
chick

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#10060 - 04/05/06 07:10 AM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
smilinize Offline
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Registered: 11/08/03
Posts: 3512
Loc: outer space
Starting Over,

That is wonderful news. Isn't it amazing how God answers prayers with blessings even greater than we could have known to request.

I have prayed for you tonight and will pray again tomorrow.

I believe you truly are starting over. I pray that you are entering a whole new world filled with all the blessings and joy that you have been deprived of.

This is wonderful.

smile

[ April 05, 2006, 12:11 AM: Message edited by: smilinize ]

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#10061 - 04/05/06 10:21 AM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
LSmith5434 Offline
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Registered: 10/02/05
Posts: 370
Loc: Washington State
Starting Over.........
You're doing it girl!!!
Keep up the good work, the belief in yourself, and your faith, and that will keep you on the same path I'm making for myself.
I do believe you and I are going to make it!!!
Prayers for you tonite, and all the time.
Lynne

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#10062 - 04/05/06 05:40 PM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
Starting Over, I am offering up prayers for you today! I bet you're going to feel so relieved when this part is over.

I am so proud of how you've handled this entire situation.

I wouldn't worry too much about his parents. You've had strength for everything else. I'm sure you'll have what it takes to make that visit.

I'm anxious to see how your new life unfolds. Now you can put all your energy towards creating a new life!

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#10063 - 04/06/06 04:52 AM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
chatty lady Offline
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Registered: 02/24/04
Posts: 20267
Loc: Nevada
BRAVO dear startingover....I applaud you.

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#10064 - 04/06/06 06:42 PM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
Dotsie Offline
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Registered: 07/09/08
Posts: 23647
Loc: Maryland
Startingover, how about an update? Are you feeling relieved that this is behind you?

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#10065 - 04/06/06 08:20 PM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
starting over Offline
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
Good Morning All!

Well its official I have a new name! The court thing went well, he did not show up so it was just me, 2 attorneys, the judge and a girl friend who came for support. I had to get on the stand and answer questions but it went well. actually it turned out that all were sympathetic to my situation and at one point they went off record to discuss the best way to word a section to ensure I would be covered as good as possible.

The settlement wasn't what I had hoped for a year and a half ago, but really what else could we do? He has no $$ he has spent it all on attorneys and legal stuff to stay out of jail, he can't pay alimony because he won't have a job. I did get 1/2 of his retirement.

They added a clause that if by some miracle he doesn't get prison time then he will have to pay 1/2 the bills and alimony and 1/2 retirement.

I got all our possessions so the auction is clear to go on Sat. Pray that the bids are high adn I make lots of $$!

The attorney has promised to help me clean up the mess that I am still dealing with financially. I may still have to file bankruptcy--but that will be down the road a bit as we see how the house sale shakes out.

I told them on the record that I had set aside some things for his mom and would take them to here once I was sure he was behind bars. I got a call (message) from him last night--all sweetie--saying he wanted to make arrangements to come and get those things and he wanted to go through his things and pull out yearbooks etc--still trying to get into the house, still trying to get a face to face, still trying to control.

He doesn't know everything is already gone to auction--I could kick myself though--all that time I spent pulling things he might want--I forgot yearbooks! Now he'll never remember that I pulled all those things for him--he'll just remember that I was callous and threw out his yearbooks! sigh....

But I have the courts backing that I could do whatever with his things so he should count his blessings I took the time at all!

Found out last night the gal that wasn't moved out of her house yet so i could move in over the weekend--the place she was moving to fell through--she won't be out until mid May! At first I was upset, but if the people do get to buy the house they won't close for at least 45 days so that means I can live rent free for at least another month--so Praise God! and the landlord feels so bad that the rental has been delayed that they are letting me store all my things in their basement no charge for as long as I need to. PTL!

Thanks for all the support and prayer ladies! I couldn't have done it without you! And once more for the record---PORN IS A BIG DEAL--it destroys entire families and YOUR HUSBAND COULD END UP IN PRISON!!! Mine did--it could happen to anybody!

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#10066 - 04/06/06 08:29 PM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
Daisygirl Offline
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Registered: 08/25/05
Posts: 1052
Loc: Ohio
Congratulations Starting Over!

Now you can truly start your new life! It sounds like you have a good attorney who cares.

Daisygirl

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#10067 - 04/07/06 12:05 AM Re: divorce date moved--to tomorrow!
Dianne Offline
Queen of Shoes

Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
I'm so glad this is behind you. You've really been through a lot but have remained strong and steadfast. I admire you.

What's he going to do with his yearbooks? Read them in prison?!

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