Posted by: Anonymous
Racism & Sexism @ Work - 03/27/06 11:05 PM
Hey gals, I'm curious to know if any of you have experienced Racism & Sexism at work (or anywhere). I've experienced both, to include reverse sexism.
Also, how important do you think attractiveness counts, especially over 40?
I've noticed that the men at work are racist, why? B/C the majority of the lawyers and staff are about 95% caucasian. The only african american secretary we have is very attractive, yet very stupid (I know this is awful to say), and the men just swooooon over her! She could destroy an entire transcript and the attorney would say "oh, don't worry honey"! Yet, when she leaves the room the men make racist remarks like "little black girl."
Us secretaries talk a bit amongst ourselves about this, but since it is a law firm, we don't want to be subjected to discharge.
Thus, I'm really noticing that the more attractive an invidual is -- the better treatment. Also, should an individual dress code have more style or seem very expensive -- better treatment.
I was at a garden center over the weekend, wearing sweats after a 5K fun run/walk and noticed that younger more attractive people were given preferential treatment over myself and older ladies. So, I returned a birdbath I purchased b/c they were so rude!
On the flip side, during the summer when I wear items with a bit more skin (yet office appropriate) the men do look and sometimes longer than they should, I do feel uncomfortable.
Some of the women at work wear low cut pants w/ their bellies out (or even very tight clothes) - yuk! I wish they wouldn't b/c this gives an improper message, even if they are married!
I try not to one-up the female attorneys, they don't like it when the secretaries dress like attorneys -- they want to be separate and noticeable. I purchase most of my clothes from Ann Taylor and Loft or Harolds (www.harolds.com).
I leave the attorneys to their power suits.
Okay, back to the subject, many years ago while in the military I experienced a good deal of sexism directed toward women, and racism mostly directed to african american men and women. Unfortunately, the later was the recipient of both sexism and racism. On two occassions I was the brunt of reverse racism, that was over 15 years ago. Yet, recently I was in Wal-Mart and the cashier told me to return my cart, and I said "No." I would have if they were nice, but I had checked out and they were rude. This lady told another cashier that that white lady better put back that cart or she was going to call the manager! Well, I don't know if she called the manager, but I did!
I don't believe in racism nor sexism, or that for which they stand for, yet I do believe that they do exist and sometimes simultaneously.
I apologize if I offend anyone with this subject matter, but I don't believe it belongs in the workplace either.
Thus, I ask again if any of you gals have experienced racism/sexism and your thoughts. Also, do you think the more attractive (and younger) are treated w/ preferential treatment?
So, I'm 40 now, and this all is just very curious to me. Thus, in addition, what did you do when your turned 40 to feel/look attractive?
Also, how important do you think attractiveness counts, especially over 40?
I've noticed that the men at work are racist, why? B/C the majority of the lawyers and staff are about 95% caucasian. The only african american secretary we have is very attractive, yet very stupid (I know this is awful to say), and the men just swooooon over her! She could destroy an entire transcript and the attorney would say "oh, don't worry honey"! Yet, when she leaves the room the men make racist remarks like "little black girl."
Us secretaries talk a bit amongst ourselves about this, but since it is a law firm, we don't want to be subjected to discharge.
Thus, I'm really noticing that the more attractive an invidual is -- the better treatment. Also, should an individual dress code have more style or seem very expensive -- better treatment.
I was at a garden center over the weekend, wearing sweats after a 5K fun run/walk and noticed that younger more attractive people were given preferential treatment over myself and older ladies. So, I returned a birdbath I purchased b/c they were so rude!
On the flip side, during the summer when I wear items with a bit more skin (yet office appropriate) the men do look and sometimes longer than they should, I do feel uncomfortable.
Some of the women at work wear low cut pants w/ their bellies out (or even very tight clothes) - yuk! I wish they wouldn't b/c this gives an improper message, even if they are married!
I try not to one-up the female attorneys, they don't like it when the secretaries dress like attorneys -- they want to be separate and noticeable. I purchase most of my clothes from Ann Taylor and Loft or Harolds (www.harolds.com).
I leave the attorneys to their power suits.
Okay, back to the subject, many years ago while in the military I experienced a good deal of sexism directed toward women, and racism mostly directed to african american men and women. Unfortunately, the later was the recipient of both sexism and racism. On two occassions I was the brunt of reverse racism, that was over 15 years ago. Yet, recently I was in Wal-Mart and the cashier told me to return my cart, and I said "No." I would have if they were nice, but I had checked out and they were rude. This lady told another cashier that that white lady better put back that cart or she was going to call the manager! Well, I don't know if she called the manager, but I did!
I don't believe in racism nor sexism, or that for which they stand for, yet I do believe that they do exist and sometimes simultaneously.
I apologize if I offend anyone with this subject matter, but I don't believe it belongs in the workplace either.
Thus, I ask again if any of you gals have experienced racism/sexism and your thoughts. Also, do you think the more attractive (and younger) are treated w/ preferential treatment?
So, I'm 40 now, and this all is just very curious to me. Thus, in addition, what did you do when your turned 40 to feel/look attractive?