Her hubby doesn't like travel, not even local

I know one woman who is frustrated that her husband doesn't like to travel, or drive far. To him, it's a hassle to drive more than 15 kms. She doesn't know how to drive (and doesn't want to), but feels guilty to take off for 1/2 day away from her hubby, even to go far from neighbourhood to wander/explore their new city. (Vancouver where is we live.)

I was a bit surprised to learn that during a work stint of 2 years in Thailand, her hubby had no interest to see more sights of Thailand. Same for work stint of 4 years in Tawain.

They are both university educated, in their mid-30's, Filipino, but fluently bilingual with English. Have a teenage son.

It makes no sense to me... She is very bright, hard-working woman. She taught math at the college level.

You can imagine how suppressed she feels in expanding her horizons ..even abit.

I am careful to say nothing except brightly suggest...maybe over time...

She further limits herself by not wanting to learn how to drive,
and by allowing herself to feel guilty.
She needs to set herself free on certain things.

You say she feels guilty by exploring, but you don't say whether that is a self-inflicted feeling or her husband does not like her exploring on her own.

I have know other people who never leave their backyard. It doesn't make sense to me, but they also do not understand my need to travel endlessly. I always have to remind myself not to project my wants onto someone else.

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You say she feels guilty by exploring, but you don't say whether that is a self-inflicted feeling or her husband does not like her exploring on her own.

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A bit of both --her husband doesn't want her physically away from home to explore and spend money. Although they are outwardly a contemporary, well-educated couple (they both have degrees in engineering), she is still the one cooking meals, etc., despite working full-time (in my department).

At the same time, she is self-inflicting this by feeling guilt for leaving her hubby for the day to be on her own.

When I describe my cycling holidays/weekends, she is abit wistful and envious of my freedom just to get on bike..and go, regardless of whether or not I do it with my partner (who loves travelling also) or solo.