in good times and bad

I am giving my hubby a run for his money these past few days. Wow. I haven't been able to do a darn thing with my leg locked in the straight position in this brace. I'm so glad he's decided to stick with me through thick and thin.

When this is all over, I am going to have to take him out for a nice dinner or something. He hasn't had a second to himself this weekend. I thought I wouldn't mind being high maintenance, but I really do. I'd much rather do for myself.

Yes Dotsie but I bet you've been there for so many others including Ross that now he is having the pleasure of doing for you. You aren't the only one who likes helping others, he does to I bet. Let him spoil you now and you can spoil him later, whahoo!!!!

Chatty, I should have known you would post something like that. After all, you are the one who has helped many in these forums with their marriages.

Dotsie. You're a giver. I'm a giver too. You like to do things yourself. It's hard to accept the help of someone else, and it's frustrating being so helpless.

Hang in there. Ross is an angel for being patient and understanding and helping you in your time of need. That's what a marriage is all about. Sometimes you're the giver. Sometimes he is. Just don't keep score. Not a good way to grow a successful marriage.

As for treating him. Does he have any hobbies? Maybe you can give him a "day off" to go play or indulge. Does he like to golf? Maybe a gift certificate at his favorite golf store. Does he have his eye on something he's been wanting for a long time?

I guess that's enough suggestions. heehee. Sometimes I can go a bit overboard.

Enjoy your downtime and get rest. It's what you need to heal.

Vicki, I've decided to give into this whole pain medicine thing. It knocks me out, but without it, I am miserable. I go back to the doctor and the physical therapist Wednesday. Until, I'm taking life easy.

I'm thinking I'll take Ross on an overnight when we get this behind us. I'm going to surprise him. He loves to get away so I think he'll love it. I can schedule it so it doesn't have to interfere with his work.

I'm also want to take Dad out for a crab cake. He's been hanging out when Ross isn't around. He's so easy to have around.

Going away on an overnight as a surprise sounds like a good reward.

You're so thoughtful to think of your dad as well.

Vicki, I can't help it. He is so helpful. We often talk about caring for our parents, but I've got to tell ya...he's cared more for my family and me than we have since Mom died. It's his nature.

I was kind of mad at my dad when he and mom split up but I knew he was mentally ill. Then he married that woman and she and all her kids (9) took over his life. He never saw my second son or the first son either since he was a baby. I just thought a terrible thing,(lightbulb moment) my sons never had a Grandfather. My husband was 22 years my senior and his parents had been dead for sometime. Wow, what a bummer that is. Dotsie, you and the kids are so fortunate to have your dad there and him still able to interact with you all. Bless his heart.

Thanks chatty. I'm sorry to hear your dad left and married someone with nine kids. With that many, I imagine they did take over his life. Have the boys ever mentioned missing out on having a grandfather?

No they never did and actually I never even thought of it either before this subject was posted. I guess since he was never there they never missed him. Sad when you think about it. I was so close to my gramps on my mothers side...

You're both Saints in my book. So sorry about all the pain Dotsie. If I could take it away, I would. If I could come up there and help, I would gladly do that as well. Although if you hope to survive this, you realllllly don't need me cooking for you. Do you do take out?

JJ