Here we go again

More problems with the stepson and more refusal from my husband to do anything about it. I was supposed to go to MN for Valentines Day and canceled my ticket. Let him spend it with his son. The jerk didn't even remember our anniversary and strangely, I didn't really care. I guess I've grown used to it.

But, I'm going to do what's good and right for me. I'm going to continue to live in my beautiful home and enjoy the benefits and get a life of my own. I'm actually happy about this decision. I refuse to put myself through anymore stress and especially, financial. Too old for that at this stage of my life. This is easy to do because he works in another state so I don't have to deal with him on a daily basis.

Don't get me wrong, he's a good man in other ways until it comes to protecting and defending me against the assaults of his sons. Then, he's a big chicken you know what. But, if he can live with that realization, so be it. I don't have to live with it.

I've taken back my power and damn, it feels good!

I agree with this timely decision and have one thing to add. You above all with all the stories you hear from the other site, know that a slug is a slug. Protect yourself....! You have a nice home now etc., but one never knows so stash some bucks, save as much in a PRIVATE account that no one need know about as you can. You never know and its better to be safe than sorry....

Oh honey...trust me. I've more than protected myself. But, I know he doesn't want a divorce anymore than I do and he has to consider that when he retires, where actually, will he call home? I can't tell you how I've been released. I'm back to my old, sarcastic self.

Dianne, This post runs along the smae lines as your yoga post. Keep working on you. You are worthy!

I am a step-parent. I thank god I do not have to deal with matters anymore. His kids are 32 and 30 now. The 32 year old is a real trouble maker, calls his dad still when he is drunk, to blame him for the lousy life he has. Which is 32 fault not his fathers. The 30 year old has no contact with anyone at all. If I had to do it all over again I won't unless the guy was secure enough in his own skin to deal with his x and the children. Mine isn't. His kids would lie, mannipulate or what ever, it wasn't easy. We have two kids together they are 23 & 25 and you can sure see the difference in how the children were raised. My kids (our) really can't be bothered with the kids from their fathers first marriage at all.

Well gee, my stepsons would probably call and tell their dad it was my fault, the way they were raised...although I wasn't around at that time. I think they believe I caused the war in Iraq!

I get upset but now, I'm trying to operate from a position of love and just ignore it. I feel better that way.

I remember Mom saying,"Kill them with kindness".