To marry - or not to marry

I covered up a good post that whirlwind has going so don't forget to check that out too.

ne of the topics that I thought could use its own forum is:

To marry -or- not to marry.

I know every boomer woman does what they want these days and that's a good thing. But how about listing some reasons for marrying the guy you've been dating for five years (or whatever) and perhaps some reasons for staying in the relationship and not marrying.

It seems to me this would be a very short topic as there are really only a few reasons for either.

GET MARRIED:
finances (needing help)
loneliness, needing someone
peer pressure,
need sex,
fear of sickness/dying alone.

DON'T MARRY:
finances(fear of scoundrels)
contentment with ones self,
peer pressure,
sex not important,
good support team for old age either family or arrangements for long term care....

Maybe someone else has more ideas but these seem to be the ones I've thought about and seen discussed in the Forum.

Sometimes, because of a will, the woman won't get married again or her finances would be cut off.

I would never get married again if the hub died. I think I've pretty much exhausted that part of my life anyway.

To add on to Chatty's and Dianne's: when, and when not to, perhaps may also depend on how the children would feel about it?

If I could marry someone who was a Christian, honest, unselfish, responsible, fun, and intelligent, I would marry him.

If I was in love with him.

I would want to make love to someone I love and since I don't believe in SOoM, I would want to marry him.

Daisy, where's smilinize when you need her? She met and married the guy you are speaking of.

Smilinize and her great guy just got back from vacation and she had a cold but I bet she'll pop in soon to say hey!!!

Dotsie's right. I did marry that guy. More than three years ago and it gets better every day. I think he knows me better than I know myself.
We met three weeks before we got married, and it is still as if we have known each other forever.
When we met we were both divorced, both in our early fifties, and had both come near remarrying a couple of times and both chickened out at the last moment. Neither of us planned to ever marry again.
But the moment we met it was obvious, there was no other choice. We eloped.
We have often thanked God for such an illogical, but wonderful blessing.

smile

P.S. Chatty's right too. We did just return from vacation and I came home with a bad cold. Thankfully it started on the way home and I'm getting better.

Anne, when I read under age, I ws thinking...what is she going to tell us here. Phew!

smile, when you're feeling better, tell us about your trip. So happy to hear you are still living the honeymoon!

Perfect Anne!