Visitation dilema

Ladies need some insight....When someone moves away from home to another State where they reside for many years. Then this person decides to go to visit their childhood home and their parents. Now the dilema, should this individual have to run all over town to visit the Aunts, Uncles, cousins and what have you or is it their responsibiity if they want to see this person, to visit her at her familys home?

I say everyone does whatever they want and everyone else copes.
Of course I do all kinds of obligatory visiting when I go home, but a lot of other folks do their share of obligatory visiting me at Mom's too so it all averages out.
I say everyone should "Don't worry, Be happy!"
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Chatty,
I usually end up doing all the 'running' - which is why I need a vacation after I get back from vacation. Or more accurately, why I choose not to refer to visiting 'home' as a vacation at all. It usually isn't. Is it fair? No, it isn't, but that's how it works out for me....

Yes me too thats why I hesitate to go back home for a visit and these people get really ticked off if I don't go and make a fuss over all their possessions, houses. Makes me really mad because when they come to Vegas AGAIN I have to go to their hotels and take them out..Once my mom's gone I will never go back there again and if they come here they can come to my home, I'm proud of my home too. I am not the Las Vegas welcome wagon however...

Chatty Lady ... I guess I've gotten so disconnected with "home" (the town I grew up in) that I don't have to worry too much. BUT, when I go back to AZ for a visit from Germany, it does seem I have to run around to see my family and few friends. Then again, there aren't that many. LOL. But I understand how you must feel. I love the line about the Las Vegas welcome wagon, lol.

Hugs and Blessings, Francine

Its how you feel after awhile. Like its your job or something to greet everyone and show them around. No one seems to realize I am not here on vacation. I live here and work here. I wonder how many people would drop everything and take of work in their town to usher me around????

chatty, I think it's nice gesture if the family has a little party for the out-of-towner so everyone can gather and visit. Are you planning a trip soon?

NOPE!!!!!!

When I go home, I have a place to stay, and I usually let some other relatives and friends know ahead of time that I am coming there. Then we usually make arrangements when I get there.

This is only if I have a positive response from anyone. In other words, those that didn't respond positively, or at all before I arrived, then I won't even bother. I do not want to waste anytime when I am there.

Cheers,
Cathi

Hi all,

When I went back home (Illinois) for a visit, we would have a family gathering someplace so we could see everyone. The only people's homes we made a point in visiting were those that we were especially close to. It worked out great.
My last parent passed 5 years ago and I went back the summer after Mom passed to go through her things with my siblings. I haven't been back since.

I feel the same way, going "home" is not the same as a vacation. It's an odd feeling to finally sit and decide where you want to go for vacation now that you don't have to figure in going back home.

I live outside Orlando and I know about feeling like the welcome wagon. We finally told people if they were coming they'd have to do a hotel and get their tickets for themselves. I also told them, while they are on vacation, we are not. This is everyday for us, not play time. It seems to have worked out pretty good.

Hope that helps some. Try the family gathering.

Luck,
Sandpiper

Guess I have to get tough as well, hopefully it will help in my situation too. Thanks ladies and Sandpiper I can tell you know exactly what I mean...