Posted by: Dotsie
Doing things alone? - 06/12/03 04:44 PM
I only put this in travel 'cause I couldn't think of a better place. Caloona mentioned in her post about Menopause the Musical that she has a hard time doing things alone. She asked if we have any suggestions on getting over that.
I guess it depends on the reason we won't do things alone. I remember I didn't like to eat out alone because if someone saw me they might think I didn't have anyone to eat with, think I was a loser, whatever..., doesn't she have a husband, friends, etc...WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK?
How insecure of me to worry about what people think, but you have to understand that I have been spending most of my adult life getting over that because it was ingrained so much as a child...What will the neighbors think?
Fortunately I have gotten over that and actually enjoy going places alone. I seem to revel in the peace and quiet, an opportunity to unwind, relax, and be peaceful. Not having to consider if the other person is enjoying themself.
Caloona was talking about going to a show alone, and I haven't done that and don't know if I would. Her point was that it is better to share it with someone. I agree!
What are the reasons we don't do things alone(if that's the case) and how do we get over it?
I guess it depends on the reason we won't do things alone. I remember I didn't like to eat out alone because if someone saw me they might think I didn't have anyone to eat with, think I was a loser, whatever..., doesn't she have a husband, friends, etc...WHO CARES WHAT THEY THINK?
How insecure of me to worry about what people think, but you have to understand that I have been spending most of my adult life getting over that because it was ingrained so much as a child...What will the neighbors think?
Fortunately I have gotten over that and actually enjoy going places alone. I seem to revel in the peace and quiet, an opportunity to unwind, relax, and be peaceful. Not having to consider if the other person is enjoying themself.
Caloona was talking about going to a show alone, and I haven't done that and don't know if I would. Her point was that it is better to share it with someone. I agree!
What are the reasons we don't do things alone(if that's the case) and how do we get over it?