Not my future DIL

I've gone from shocked and upset to angry now. My son's girlfriend upped and moved out the other day and took his dog with her. I would not have been surprised to hear they broke up as I had a feeling it wasn't going all that well recently, but the way she did it threw me for a loop. I can't believe she did this. I had high hopes for this relationship. We all liked this girl very much and welcomed her into our lives. But, anyone messes with my kids has a problem with me. Not that I would call her or anything like that, but let's just say she's on my list of "I'm glad he didn't marry that one" now. I think she took the dog for spite. I'm glad they didn't have a kid. He's very upset and was told he couldn't get the dog back without taking her to court. So, she can just pack up while he's at work and take whatever she wants out of HIS house including his dog and that's okay? I think he is going to file a complaint and have her summons to court. This girl is old enough to know better than this.

Louisa, it sounds like she's holding the dog as ransom for your ds' attention. I'm sure her taking the dog was just some ploy to remain in contact w/ your ds. If he has proof of dog ownership, he could probably just make a phone call to the local police dept. Try not to fret so much, I'm sure he'll get the dog back. Although, not to burst your bubble, but the girl might be part of the package too.

My brother-inlaw, now deceased, used to say, "A person that will take your dog, will cut you." In other words, anyone who would take your dog, would do anything to you, anything. He would say it jokingly, but it makes you wonder about people. I mean, even though this isn't a child, it was still HIS dog, HIS "baby" so to speak, his pet, and I'm sure he loved it as one does a child. Bottom line...she stole it. I would report her to the police in a heartbeat...especially if he can prove ownership. And listen, that gal knew what she was doing. It's called spite.

He better be thanking his lucky stars she's gone, from the sound of it.

I'm with you Louisa...say and do what you want to about me, or even to me, but you mess with one of my sons and you will have the wrath of da Queen on you. That's not a threat...that's a promise. Uh huh...amen!

Unfortunately, it's the police who told him to tell it to the judge. They pretty much didn't give a hoot. Even when he had the man who sold him the dog telling them that, they didn't want to hear it. He did have one of those chips put in the dog's ear that lists him as the owner and his address in case it gets lost. I'm hoping that is proof. I'm also afraid she may have had the chip changed. I don't trust her for one minute. I doubt there will be any reconciliation though. You can do a lot to a guy, but stealing his dog is pretty low. I know I can never feel the same about her after this and would never trust her.

Ain’t it the truth how that saying goes:
“Little children, little problems; big children, big problems.”

Just wondering if the girlfriend was the caretaker of the dog during the day? Just to give her the benefit of doubt, did she just take the dog with her so he wouldn’t be alone? But still, it is unforgivable that she didn’t even ask your son if it is all right with him, and now won’t even give him back. Oh yes, be glad they aren’t married and don’t have a child.

Don’t you wish voodoo dolls worked!

No EW, she works a lot of hours and put the dog in a crate all day long, which is something he didn't like. He finally got her to leave him out of the crate for a few days and found he didn't bother anything in the house. Now, I'm assuming she has the dog at her parents home which is a good half hour from here and will leave it in a crate all day. It is a lousy thing to do to her parents who are older and will have to take care of it during the day. But, no, she did not take care of him during the day. Sometimes my son would bring him with him to my daughter's house at night when she still wasn't home yet. Where do they find these women? And it does make me wonder how she would be with children. I don't see that she's mature enough to handle kids, but I'm glad there aren't any involved.

Louisa it amazes me how young women these days are downright spiteful, mean and bitter. It's just terrible. I've had my share of a young woman who needs a good shaking up. I hope your son gets his Dog back and soon.

He might be able to hire someone, a detective maybe, to snatch the dog back again. I would mess up anyone who messed with my dogs, and thats a FACT! He needs to take her to court if thats his only option and soon, and he neess to make sure he has proof he paid for the dog. What crummy people live on this earth of ours.

Anne, I don't know if that is considered animal abuse or not. Maybe Chatty knows?? I do know it's what a lot of dog owners do now. They "crate" the dog while they are at work all day. I don't care for because I feel that it is cruel to keep the animal confined like that. But it is done all the time. He didn't like it either.

Chick, they are supposed to walk the dog so he can take care of things, but I still don't like it. Of course, when I had dogs they pretty much did what they wanted, but I was home all day too.

Chatty, I don't think he could get away with stealing the dog back. I think it has to be done legally or like anything else, he'd end up in trouble instead of the person who stole it in the first place.

Louisa, I'm sorry that your son is having to deal with such a spiteful gal. I don't understand why the police won't make the girl return the dog, considering your son has clear factual evidence. When is the court date before the 'judge'? Wonder if a 'custody order' will be issued. My prayers are with your son and his pup.

Your right Louisa. I just got so ticked off at her cruelty to your son and to the dog.

As afar as animal abuse goes, there is a fine line about crating an animal. I DO NOT! Nor would I. But the courts don't consider it abuse unless the crate is too small or the animal is left in it for too long a period without food or water. These charges are hard to prove to begin with. Crating is cruel and why have a pet you plan on locking away for hours at a time. Animals have died in crates...

Louisa, I can tell you're hurting for your son, and to me, there's nothing worse than knowing everything isn't right in your child's world. It's so unsettling. Just try to show him extra love and support during this ridiculous time in his life. And count your lucky stars this happened before marriage and/or kids.

Still not sure what he's going to do. He hasn't had the heart to file the complaint yet. She won't talk to him, so I don't sese what else there is to do except walk away from it all. Pretty cruel and selfish thing to do to one's parents too, I think. Now she'll stick the dog in the crate and leave him with her parents all day long.

Louisa, why doesn't he retrieve his dog (no pun intended) at her parent's house during the day, when the parents are home and she is not? Unless she told them, that it was stolen, which is unlikely, they probably think that he gave the dog to her. Poor doggie, hope she treats it better than she treated your DS.

Great picture (avatar) Louisa...