Marriage

After over 20 years of being single, and at the age of 53, I was married on December 21 to a wonderful baby boomer of 56. Don't know why I worried so much about living with a man after all these years because it has been "heaven" having a man around the house.

What wonderful news sunshine. I did a similar thing a little over a year ago and have been happier than I can ever remember. I was pretty happy when he came along, but being married has been a delightful surprise.
Best wishes.
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Smilin, I saw that you are from "outer space." I have known my husband, a boomer too, for 21 years exactly this month. We have been married since 1988. I never would have guessed that marriage could be all the more richer and deeper as we "age." So, Smilin, where are you really from? Love and Light, Lynn

sunshine and smilin definitely have something in common.

I've been married to the love of my life for 26 years. He's my "bestest" friend in all the world.

Lynn, I love hearing from happily married women. Congrats!

Dotsie, you are so modest...you and your hubby are THE perfect couple...I talk about you two all the time...and I have known you since you were born, so I can tell the whole story. You guys are SOOOOO great...beautiful (and handsome), talented, dedicated, organized, focused, great parents, wonderful siblings and devoted children...nobody could ask for better family and friends than you and your wonderful hubby!!

Micki, where's all this coming from girlfriend?
shhh..., but thank you so much for all the kind words.

I often think about how God was looking out for Ross and I when we were ignoring Him and got married. We didn't even want to be married in a church. (I'm ashamed to say.) Had to be married outside. I'm grateful we chose to turn our lives over to Him when we did. He continues to bless our union, which in turn allows us to parent and love our children, parents, siblings, family and friends even more. I give God the credit for being at work in us.

Sunshine,
I'm 53 and have been married for 3 years to a guy who's now 56. It's been great! We have everything in common, but sometimes we wonder (just for fun) if we'd have hit it off had we met 30 years ago.

[ January 24, 2005, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: DJ ]

DJ...

I know Tom and I would not have been compatible 30 years ago. I guess it takes years of living life, smoothing out the rough edges, trimming the branches back, etc. to get to the person I am today where he and I are sooooooooooooo compatible. We already finish each other's sentences and think about the same things (scary)! Glad to hear you have been so happy--looking forward to 30 years with Tom.

Look at that. ALl in one post. Three midlife newlyweds and they're all happy!

iT IS IMPORTANT THAT WE HAVE SOMEONE THAT WE CAN RELATE WITH AND ENCOURAGE US WHEN WE ARE DOWN. I KNOW THAT MY HUSBAND, OF 35 YEARS, IS A GREAT ENCOURAGER! WHENEVER I AM SICK OR HAVE JUST GOTTEN MY CHEMO TREATMENT, HE IS ALWAYS THERE TO MAKE SOME JOKE, OR JUST SAY 'I LOVE YOU' OR EVEN MAYBE SAY A LITTLE PRAYER FOR ME. IT IS SO WONDERFUL TO HAVE HIM HERE WITH ME!!!

[ November 03, 2005, 05:31 PM: Message edited by: Merium ]

Merium,
I am 1200 miles away from my family and friends. I first had a stroke then breast cancer. I know my healing without God and my husband would not have been as fast or easy as it was without them both. He was with me every step of the way. My best friend, who lives in NM, called me every night, almost, and sent me gifts like flannel PJs and cuddley things, we live in OH and it was cold. Support is a key to having a healthy attitude and welness in my opinion. My 3 sons called often of course, but were not like my husband and best friend.

My husband and I are like the tv show, Mad About You. We play off each others words. We both have a very dry wit. It's been fun.

I have a question for you gals. My husband works in another state so most of our marriage is based on phone conversations. The problem is, he doesn't do good phone. It's short and sweet. Too short most of the time. So, how can I spice this up a bit. Now, Chatty will tell me...I know what she'll tell me but a lot of our phone calls are when he's at work so I can't do that!

And ideas out there?

Do you have a web cam? Or is that queer?

Support is key to having a healthy attitude and wellness. Great point June. I think this is true whether or not someone is sick.

Merium, consider yourself blessed, and even more so for being aware of his love and communicating it in here so others can feel the beauty within some couples.

Well Dianne does his office door have a lock on it? He is the boss after all and believe it or not I get plenty of calls from men at work, in the office, warehouse their semi truck trailer etc. Where theres a will, theres a way...he, he and imagine his surprise when you tell him to go lock his office door, mercy!!!

It sounds like fun but he would never do that. I could do it when he's home tho! I think he might be surprised and happy!

I have a friend in another state whose husband has brain cancer. They have always had such a wonderful sex life, but his medication has made it impossible for now. They were depressed and their once playful relationship had deteriorated to nothing but resentment and constant battles.

She came here to get away from his disease for a while. When she discussed the losses she felt I mentioned Chatty's business and she began calling home late at night. Soon she couldn't wait to be with her husband again.

Later she told me she and her husband had been having phone sex. She said it eased the tension of his disease and restored the love to their marriage.

Just goes to show, where there's love there's a way.

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It is just amazing to me how God puts people from all walks of life together...to create an answer to one's prayers.

Praise God.

Even phone sex can have a place in this life especially when done for all the right reasons. Now this is one post that made me feel really happy, good for them! I hope things work out for them and cancer is defeated yet again.