Posted by: ladybug
Friendship diminished? - 12/04/05 08:19 AM
My best friend is so distant from me now than she was six years ago. The reason? A guy.
I met my best friend when we both worked at Internal Revenue Service back in 1982. She is the Godmother of both my children.
Back six years ago she began dating an unemployed guy who was 38. At the time she was 53. She brought him to our home for us to meet him. He seemed okay. He didn't have her level of class and education but I did understand her "need" at the time.
The next day we went shopping and she started telling me how she buys him expensive things and even lets him use her nice car to go to a part time job that he recently got. Her once spotlessly clean car looked trashed. His daughters even handed her a list of expensive items they wanted for Christmas. She lent this guys brother money to buy a leather vest. He never repaid her and even joked about his "gift." Ladies I could go on and on.
The kicker came when she said she wanted to bring him and his one daughter to our annual Christmas dinner in our home. I politely and tactfully told her why I didn't want him to come. This man is a user!!! I also told her that politely and she agreed. However, after I told her not to bring him and his daughter to my party I never heard from her again! She never answers her phone and I only got one or two responses to cards I sent her. She doesn't live close by.
When my husband had his stroke I contacted her to let her know. She did retire from I.R.S. about four years ago but now has a job elsewhere. She keeps busy and I understand why. I'm really sorry that a worthless (in my opinion) man came between us. While she readily agrees with that it didn't help to make us become closer again.
At the end of our day shopping together six years ago all I told her was to "trust your instincts on this man." The was the last time I saw her.
She stopped dating him years ago.
[ December 03, 2005, 12:28 PM: Message edited by: ladybug ]
I met my best friend when we both worked at Internal Revenue Service back in 1982. She is the Godmother of both my children.
Back six years ago she began dating an unemployed guy who was 38. At the time she was 53. She brought him to our home for us to meet him. He seemed okay. He didn't have her level of class and education but I did understand her "need" at the time.
The next day we went shopping and she started telling me how she buys him expensive things and even lets him use her nice car to go to a part time job that he recently got. Her once spotlessly clean car looked trashed. His daughters even handed her a list of expensive items they wanted for Christmas. She lent this guys brother money to buy a leather vest. He never repaid her and even joked about his "gift." Ladies I could go on and on.
The kicker came when she said she wanted to bring him and his one daughter to our annual Christmas dinner in our home. I politely and tactfully told her why I didn't want him to come. This man is a user!!! I also told her that politely and she agreed. However, after I told her not to bring him and his daughter to my party I never heard from her again! She never answers her phone and I only got one or two responses to cards I sent her. She doesn't live close by.
When my husband had his stroke I contacted her to let her know. She did retire from I.R.S. about four years ago but now has a job elsewhere. She keeps busy and I understand why. I'm really sorry that a worthless (in my opinion) man came between us. While she readily agrees with that it didn't help to make us become closer again.
At the end of our day shopping together six years ago all I told her was to "trust your instincts on this man." The was the last time I saw her.
She stopped dating him years ago.
[ December 03, 2005, 12:28 PM: Message edited by: ladybug ]