Doddle50,
HI! I am new here also. It is nice to meet you! The only way you will make a new, different, and exciting life for yourself is to do it yourself. You know no one else will do it for you. It is all up to you! Also, isn't the nerviousness part of the excitement of something as interesting and adventurous as this.
I do have some suggestions:
Write down how much cash you will have (apx.) when you DO move. If you can afford it, give yourself a deadline of X months to find a job. If you have not found one in this period of time, move. You will find something soon! Do not buy right away. Rent for a while, and consider locations, property taxes, resale value, just the size of house that is right for you now (if you do not need it for resale value, do not over size, you will be sorry, you gotta clean it LOL), facter in some for up keep and things going wrong i.e. plumbing and such. Compare that to condos, their monthly upkeep you have to pay (no mowing lawns and probably a pool and weigh room) against a house. If you need help, a financial planner and good real estate agent (hopefully both recommended by someone you know) in the area you move to would be a great help, just watch out and don't let him handle all your money. Be a hands on person! My advise from experience and what my husband says!
LOL In NO way is it being selfish! Good luck on you move! OOO sorry this was so long! LOL