What a touching post. I'm grateful you were able to spill it all out here at BWS. Has this added to your healing? I pray so.
I think everything your'e feeling and thinking is so very natural considering what you lived through.
I have a loved one whose friend commit suicide as a teen. I believe my loved one is still raw. Teen and young adult deaths are hard to get beyond. I pray you can keep trying to do so with the love of your borther's family. I'm grateful they're there for you.
I encourage you to keep writing about this- if not here, in a journal. Writing heals.
In fact, we're ahving a teleseminar about journaling next week with the NABBW,
www.nabbw.com. Please let me know if you'd like to be on the call and I'll send you the information.