Has anyone been through infidelity and is still together?? It is 18 months since he was going to leave but I was not ready and he stayed. I did not really have to convince him, he was only half baked in his idea to leave, and obviously she was not entirely sure about breaking up her marriage either. At the time I was facing surgery for what turned out to be cancer, and not strong enough to face life on my own, albeit with four teenagers and a dependant elderly mother. Now I am feeling much stronger, and need to discuss his perspective/life/thoughts with him. I want to know him better but keep coming up against brick walls when I try to talk about feelings, our future etc. I read that men have their fling, but that love is just a chapter to them whereas it is the entire book to us. What are your thoughts...should I just let go, I feel that there are some conversations I need to have in order to move on and leave the past in the past......