An employee at work mentioned her sister, who was getting married for 2nd time, specifically asked that her shower not include getting her drunk (like forcing her to drink lots of booze), have male stripper(s), etc.

this employee (herself is in her early 40's) insisted it was NORM for bridal showers to have stripper(s), other rauchiness, getting bride drunk.

I did not disguise my bewilderment and slight disgust in my response: "My social circles of women are abit different. I've never been to a bridal shower like that at all." She was surprised that my sister, a lst time bride at the age of 37 yrs. last year, had a sedate shower --ie. lovely luncheon, gifts that's all.

I stressed that my experience was not a cultural difference at all...since most of these bridal showers I attended, where the bride was Caucasian.

I really felt our worlds were VERY different.

Have trends in content of bridal showers changed in the past few decades? I don't think imitating the male stag party of "sowing your wild oats" one last time is worthwhile tradition for women to even follow. Sends a stupid, double message about marital /sexual fidelity. (a joke, ha-hah..hollow joke.)

And by the way, 1/2 of my friends who have had sedate showers, are not religious. Others are religious.

Tell me what the norm is these days in "entertainment" for bridal showers.... secular style.