Ok, not sure what to do, or if I should do anything.

DH and I have been married 9 years. Not ONCE has his kids offered to come HERE for Christmas. Granted, the first few years, DH was working (shift work) and before that he always worked Christmas since he was single.

So, do I say something (DSD lives 5 hrs away w/her DH, DSS lives a plane ride away) or should I be happy to spend ANY time with them AT any time, even if it's a few weeks before Christmas. The birth mother always seems to "get Christmas". These kids are 33 and 35.

We're probably boring to them since we have five dogs and a lonely house. I just get so irritated. DH says he wants them to "make their own decisions" but what gives? I dont' want to say anything without DH knowing first. I almost think he's afraid to ask them.

What should I do or not do??