foundhervoiceatlast, with what you have on your husband right now he should be pooping in his drawers. I don't think judges look too kindly on a cheating, jerk husband when the wife has been faithful through it all. I'd say you've got the upper hand here and should be smiling through the entire mediation process. I think your children will adjust and heal from this when he's out of the picture. They are reeling now at the thought of what he did to their beloved mother. He should know just how shameful and deceitful he looks in their eyes right now.

I wish all of us could be there with you, so if you should find yourself weakening pretend we are there and stand tall because you know you did nothing wrong. This whole process came to be solely because of his actions, not yours. At least you don't have to hang your head in shame like he should.